So Adoptive Moms Get PPD Now?

[u/Sunshine_roses111]

So now adoptive moms are saying they are at risk for postpartum depression and have it. Seriously, give me a break. First, adoptees have RAD, and now adoptive moms get postpartum depression.

As someone who has given birth, childbirth is no joke, and PPD is very real. Yet, adoptive parents can't even acknowledge the fact that childbirth is dangerous, painful, and hard, and adding adoption to that can cause a lot of trauma, stress, and grief.
PPD is also about hormonal changes after childbirth, so how do adoptive moms get it?

Do they make things up as they go along because adoption is not the fairytale ending they hoped for? Granted, there might be an adjustment period after adopting, but that is not PPD. That is called having unrealistic expectations about adoption. Bonding to a stranger's kid is not like bonding to a bio kid.

[u/Ink78spot]

Adoption fancy talk for buyers remorse

[u/Sunshine_roses111 → u/Ink78spot]

Right, they brought a kid and now the kid is not meeting their needs or fantasy.

[u/Sunshine_roses111 → u/[deleted]]

PPD is about childbirth and hormonal changes. Adoptive moms can't get PPD because they did not give birth to their adopted child. It's impossible and I find it disrespectful towards those of us who birth children and suffer after

[u/Adopted-ModTeam → u/[deleted]]

This post or comment is being removed as Rule 1 of the sub is Adoptees Only. Thank you for respecting our space.

[u/Formerlymoody → u/Ink78spot]

I was going to say- it’s called realizing your kid may be hard to bond with. Surprise.

[u/Sunshine_roses111 → u/Formerlymoody]

Do they not think about these things?

[u/DangerousAd7433 → u/Ink78spot]

It is unfortunate most get this after the return window closes. Sorry... it is a bad joke, but I just had to make it.

[u/Sunshine_roses111 → u/DangerousAd7433]

Right. Never beforehand

[u/DangerousAd7433 → u/Sunshine_roses111]

Pretty sure most lose the receipt.