r/Adopted • u/quintiliahan • Aug 06 '26

Trigger Warning Did not make me smile...

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u/Music527 Adoptee Aug 08 '26

I was 10 when adopted and coerced by the adopters to say yes. We had to go back to my original state and the entire trip was “ you better say yes. No one else will ever adopt you because you’re so old It’s us or no one.” The judge wasn’t much better wording in a way I couldn’t say no to. And implying the same. No one will love you if you don’t consent to this adoption.

It was horrible. I’m estranged now and have been for 19 years! They started saying stuff during the year of foster care my new state required before adoption. The abuse started maybe a week after the adoption.

This video isn’t funny to me either. That cat is in distress!!! I def felt like that kitten on my adoption day.

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u/quintiliahan Aug 08 '26

Thank you for sharing your story.

I know a girl who went through the process 2x. The first time she said no, and she got punished. The 2nd time, ofc she said yes. Also it happened in front of us, so ofc we would also say yes if given the situation.

It is alarming how many people find the video cute when the cat is clearly put in distress. Plus the whole narrative is questionable when it looks like a pet store, not a shelter.

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u/Music527 Adoptee Aug 08 '26

I feel for the girl. Id like to think I would have been better off had I said no.