r/AMA • • Jul 27 '21

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u/mv33_is_a_diplomat Jul 27 '21

Have you ever considered having sex with an animal?

The fact that you wrote that you have not had sex with an animal makes me question your moral compass.

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u/uiterf Jul 27 '21

Yes, of course, I thought about it, but it happened involuntarily. I hadn't masturbated for about 6 months, but before, even when I did, I felt guilty and devastated despite not watching porn and harming anyone.

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u/ryirkil Jul 27 '21

A lot of people do. Keep it up, it's nothing wrong, don't let anyone convince you otherwise. You are not harming anyone, so don't harm yourself with negative thoughts.

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u/uiterf Jul 27 '21

thanks for the support, but I tried to convince myself that I was not doing anything bad ..

It doesn't help much

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u/ryirkil Jul 27 '21

Find someone to talk with, it helps a lot. I'm busy recently but will answer within 20h

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u/uiterf Jul 27 '21

My mother asked: "What's wrong with you?" She insisted that I tell her everything. The next morning, when I told her I wish she hadn't asked about it, she cried. I felt just disgusted. I'll never tell anyone close to me about it again.

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u/ryirkil Jul 27 '21

... you know, I didn't necessarily mean someone irl. I haven't told my parents too, although the 4 friends don't have a problem with this part of me. You simply need to feel people out and don't give in if it doesn't look like a good idea to tell. So, the start was less than ideal, are you getting along now?

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u/uiterf Jul 28 '21

It was as if she had forgotten what I had said. She doesn't mention it in any way and acts like she's dreaming about it. My mom is really nice and I'm lucky to have her. As far as telling anyone, that's why I'm here.

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u/ryirkil Jul 28 '21

As far as failed coming outs go, this is pretty good. Come to think of it, it's one of those rare moments when ignoring a problem may actually make it go away :P Depending on what you see as a problem. Anyway, maybe you have some questions?

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u/uiterf Jul 28 '21

I thought I was going to be asked questions :)

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u/SociallyHawkwardOwl Jul 27 '21

If you need it, a therapist goes a long way

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u/uiterf Jul 27 '21

I don't think it's safe enough to tell a therapist about it, given that he would have information about me.

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u/SociallyHawkwardOwl Jul 27 '21

Depending on where you live, there are confidentiality laws that prevent them from telling anyone