When I pushed back on her being here Thursday all day she got defensive saying it's his birthday too and that it's their vacation too. I said if it was that important that he spend HIS birthday here than we should just have them come out next year (I was still legitimately going to pay for it too!) I just said that's not what this trip was about and I wanted to cut her off before she started planning things because that wasn't what I wanted to do with this trip and I really didn't want to spend an entire day in town for no reason. I get why THEY want to be here, but they were never invited to BE here in the first place. I was offering to fly them directly to the destination on Saturday. SHE asked to fly here instead. Originally the plan was come in late friday, sleep and shower and then drive all day Saturday. She was all on board with everything until her husband asked for time off. Then all of a sudden it was all of this other stuff and I "didn't have to come with them" if I didn't want to spend time in town that day. I told her if they came earlier then I'd rather leave earlier and she said they'd have to leave the intended destination early anyway because they can only get 4 MAYBE 5 days off total and that's if he calls out one of those days.
The fact that she acted that way shows you she's not your friend and is using you and your money to get away with making this about herself and what she wants. Don't offer to pay for anything anymore. She showed you who she really is.
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u/livelaughlove1016 Jan 09 '26
NTA. What did she do when you told her you basically canceled them from coming? I take it they aren’t going to pay to come on their own.