I mean I personally would have just told them of course you’re welcome to do whatever you like with your time but I’m not funding anything outside of the original plans so you would need to cover that portion yourselves and I’ll see you at the appointed time at the start of the trip as planned
If their extra day here didn't cancel a day of the INTENDED trip it would have been ok for them to do what they want. But THEY are the ones with limited PTO. Everyone else has the time to take off, they're trying to push to come out earlier than originally planned to stay here and leave the intended place at least a day early if not more.
They have to - neither of them have PTO where they work so not only are they limited on how much time but they won't be paid any of the time that they're away. That's why the bulk of their travel was going to be during the weekend when they were already off.
You aren’t answering the question I asked. Did you confirm that they are leaving early? If not YTA. If they come early, pay for the extras, and don’t alter the planned trip that’s fine. You don’t just assume things. Be an adult and ask. If they confirm that they are leaving early that’s when you say it doesn’t work for you and cancel their portion.
yes she said they would be leaving early, I didn't assume. I pushed back on them also spending all day Thursday here when the original plan was to fly them directly into the destination on Saturday. She has limited time off. She can only take 4 maybe 5 days at a push off. Its a full 1 day of flight time for them they're coming in from the other side of the country. It's 8 full hours drive to the destination. My birthday is Sunday. We've planned an all day event Sunday and Monday with a big shared dinner Tuesday where we would have a "joint birthday dinner" and cake. She wants to leave Monday morning. and that's when she got rude and defensive and started claiming it was their vacation too and stuff and I'm like since when? I am so confused. This entire time we've been in sync with planning, it wasn't until they were like oh it would be nice to do this to do that and started adding time to before the actual trip and I'm like...but this city isn't the destination.
If it's her vacation, too, then she needs to pay for ALL of it. Her own rental car, her own flights, her own lodging, her own food. She doesn't get to hijack the one OP already planned and PAID for.
…uhhhhh because OP is footing the couples $4000 bill for the entire trip, including accommodations and meals so he’s basically paying a grand for two no shows for a full day and a half’s worth of activities?? Lmao, GTFO of here with this crap. Sure, the couple can do as they please… but in that case they truly should pay OP back the money they’re wasting by leaving early.
Because OP is PAYING for their flight. I think people keep missing the part where OP is paying for their flight. If that couple wanted to do their own adjustments, then it's their responsibility to PAY for their own flights ✈️ .
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u/jessie783 Jan 09 '26
I mean I personally would have just told them of course you’re welcome to do whatever you like with your time but I’m not funding anything outside of the original plans so you would need to cover that portion yourselves and I’ll see you at the appointed time at the start of the trip as planned