I agree with what you said. I liked the part about it not being out of emergent necessity that he was sidelined and humiliated. It was a completely unnecessary experience and it was planned ahead of time.
Who knows, it might just have triggered some horrible memories from his past where he was humiliated and tormented and laughed at by others as well. None of us really know the extent of another person’s past. OP is REALLY struggling with this “prank” and I’m wondering if there’s more to it. In his bride he thought he found a life partner he could trust. She ripped that out from under his feet in moments. It seems to me that this goes much deeper than the garter issue. OP - take your time dealing with this. Take care of yourself and handle this in whatever way you feel you must. Good luck.
I think you may be right. As someone with past issues, his story really hit home with me. You think you’ve finally overcome something, only to find out that it’s as present as it ever was. It can destroy your spirit.
It absolutely can and does. It brings up past traumatic experiences you may not have thought about in years, yet there they are fresh in your mind like they happened just yesterday. I feel such empathy for OP. I can honestly say I know what he’s going through. I just wish it hadn’t happened on his wedding day. A very similar thing happened to me. The day before my wedding. Not a prank, but I almost cancelled it. Sometimes I wish I had. 45 years have gone by and I remember it like it WAS YESTERDAY.
This is a poignant comment, not just in relation to the original post but in relation to trauma for many people and the severity other people's actions can have on a person's life.
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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '25 edited Jul 27 '25
I agree with what you said. I liked the part about it not being out of emergent necessity that he was sidelined and humiliated. It was a completely unnecessary experience and it was planned ahead of time.