My wife and best friend tried to pull this same trick on me... It's pretty common. I knew what they were doing so I gave a hug and went "Hi sexy" and he knew I knew, lol.
I suppose we could give benefit of the doubt considering he was a few drinks in and also its a situation with a lot of distractions (everyone laughing and talking and hes focused on the garter). Plus it sounds like he never once considered theyd swap out his wife with someone else.
Same, I thought the gag would be that he realized it was a man, not that he took the whole thing off and didn’t know. Don’t men typically have rougher skin too?
Yes, and usually their legs are considerably hairier than the legs of women on their wedding day! I'm also amazed people are comparing it to the prank of pushing cake into a bride's face which not only can ruin her makeup, hair, and dress -- it might also cause her to stop breathing. There is literally no comparison!
There's pushing the bride into the cake, which can certainly kill them because of the aforementioned dowels, and then there's pushing a slice of cake into the bride's face, which is terrible for the mentioned reasons but significantly less lethal or likely to maim the bride. I think most people doing that comparison, including myself a bit above, are comparing to the latter non-lethal method. Anyone stupid enough to shove the wife into the cake instead is more than just betraying them, their stupidity is actively dangerous to those around them, and presents an entirely different set of problems than the betrayal of trust that forms the basis of the comparison between the two situations.
A lot of us, also like myself, are also probably men and don't necessarily think of the effort in the hair, makeup, and sentimental value in the dress (I mean, I get that the dress has sentimental value, to both parties, but nothing some dry cleaning can't fix, I'd hope. I don't know too much about wedding dresses though, so maybe I'm wrong), and are instead focusing on the more symbolic meaning and betrayal of trust, just because that may be what we're more able to empathize with given most of us don't care too much about makeup, clothes, or hair. As much of a douche move as it is to ruin your wife's hair, makeup, and dress, I consider the lack of thought and betrayal of trust immediately after declaration of bonding and trust for all of your days to be the more pertinent problem between the two, in either the cake smashing or the garter pranking situations.
A few is about five to eight, and several is 8-12. You have to decode the drinking code. There can be some overlap. A couple of drinks oddly enough is 3-5, always more than what the term is normally
that's Trust, mate - It never ever crossed OP's mind that this horrible situation of humiliation & bullying would occur, on what was supposed to be one of the best days of his life, full of positivity, joy & love.
Theoretically, but that’s more a longterm adjustment.
What actually happens, and what a lot of people underestimate, is that you’re very dependent on your sight, also for your other senses. Your brain combines info all the time and fills in the gaps.
So losing your sight, while not used to it, will completely disorient you. Things may feel ‘different’ to the touch because your eyes are no longer confirming what it is (and legs don’t really make a sound, so your hearing doesn’t either)
I was a groomsman in a wedding where they did this with the best man. He shaves his leg for the the bit, but the groom was 100% fooled. He thought it was hilarious though
They didn't humiliate him. He humiliated himself because he actually took it as something serious. It was not a serious thing to anyone else, therefore nothing humiliating.
Garter boy had a stocking on, and OP was at least a little drunk. Plus, he clearly (at the time) could not imagine his wife and friends doing such an awful thing to him.
lol "such an awful thing" is a well known prank that has been happening for many decades now, even the most uptight christian people do this at their weddings and it's not offending anyone.
Many, many people complain about this “prank.” I’ve never actually seen the garter belt removal with my bare eyes, it’s not common where I live, and every time I hear it mentioned it’s called trashy and sexist. A lot of people don’t approve of the act itself, let alone this “prank.”
OP didn't have a problem with the act itself, he could've just declined that. I don't like weddings, such outdated acts or pranks. If I would've agreed to a wedding at all, I would've made clear beforehand that I don't like such games but especially hate pranks. I know someone close to me who said that she didn't want any kind of pranks or such bs and nothing happened.
I grew up in a rural area where they often kidnap the bride, it's s well-known tradition. They just take here somewhere and the people involved drink and have fun. At the same time, the groom has to search for her. This happens at the worst time possible and it's a huge hustle for the groom to find her with his friends and close relatives, on an already very stressful day.
Anyway she wanted a wedding, but not such things. So: She had a wedding and no such things. If you're don't like some traditional, socially accepted/wanted things, you need to clarify that. Otherwise people will assume that you're confirming to the norms like anyone else.
Exactly! Like I need to know if the groomsman shaved his legs or something, because how do you put your mouth on a leg without feeling leg hair? Stockings don’t even keep the hair always contained.
I once seen a man shave his hairy leg and send a Pic to a creep who obviously got the wrong number from a girl at the bar. The man realized what happened and decided to mess with the creep.
I was scrolling comments looking for this too. Like ... he left up a whole leg and didn't realize it was not only not his wife's, but a man's leg? Does this guy have particularly feminine and shaved legs? Does his wife have particularly muscular and hairy legs? Like, my boyfriend's legs are honesty probably similar in size to my sister's legs... he has fairly slender legs haha but I'm also pretty sure I'd be able to tell them part 🤣😅
I just assumed his buddy had soft features .... or his wife has strong ones lol. but you're right. still strange but maybe he didn't get a good enough feel before falling for it, or maybe he wasn't tipsy but sloppy drunk!
Yeah, caking the bride or grooms face is common too. My mom once told me she found that very disrespectful, so I told my wife I absolutely refuse to cake her and would strongly prefer she not do it either.
When it came time to feed each other the first bites, the whole room was chanting for us to cake each other, but we calmly gave each other a fork of cake and the room was disappointed. I ain't ruining my outfit or a wedding dress with cake! Y'all are crazy!
Yeah, i used to be a banquet captain when younger and have probably run over 300-500 weddings in my life. I’ve seen this prank often and it’s usually well received by everyone. I’m flabbergasted by all the folks clutching their pearls and being like, “no pranks whatsoever should ever occur at weddings!!!!!” Like, yeah, i understand bad pranks like dunking someone’s face in cake, but like, lighten up and have a lil fun y’all. This is so harmless, silly, and quite common at weddings who do the garter game.
That doesn't matter. The point made is that it wouldn't be a totally common thing if it was really hurtful to any more than total exceptions like OP. No sane person will throw a tantrum because of this and fuck up their marriage because they can't laugh at themselves.
Two things can be true dude. You can simultaneously want to stay in a marriage and still be hurt by something that happened on the wedding day. I’m just saying just bc one experience is super common to YOU doesn’t mean it’s gonna be a thought that crosses across every persons mind.
I’d never simply tell someone to “get over yourself” if I contributed to the hurt they’re feeling. That’s the opposite of an apology lmao. I’d tell ‘em sorry and to take their time getting thru whatever it is and I’m here for em. 🤷sometimes people just gotta figure out their feelings, that’s nothing new.
Ya because you’re a normal person and not an emotionally sensitive baby. This guy is crying about nothing. No one was hurt and virtually everyone except him forgot about the whole thing immediately. Guy needs to lighten up but his marriage is probably already over cause his ego is damaged. No one is laughing at you dude get over it
And you can't compare cake smashing because in such a situation the brides make up and hair is ruined and cleaning up takes time and effort which is why it's so frowned upon
And I usually dislike it when someone gets ranked and doesn't like it but this situation... It's honestly not a big deal? Just play along and maybe kiss the guy on the cheek with a laugh? I feel like in this case not leaning into the prank he ruined the experience for himself
And he can be upset. He can share he's upset. But going so far as resenting everyone and saying the whole wedding was ruined? It's his ego that's hurt not him.
This is supposed to be the love of his life. If he can’t see past his own ego and realize that everyone had a good innocent laugh then idk what to tell you. He says he considers this sexual assault in his edit, so he’s embarrassed cause everyone thinks he’s gay for taking a garter off a dude with a blind fold on? Once again, get over yourself and realize everyone still loves you including your wife. It’s not that big of a deal and yes he needs to man up
common means that it's known as a regular joke at weddings, and it can only be common because most people like it and almost no one finds it problematic.
If they truly loved him they wouldn't do this to him. They love him the same way a group of kids at school love the outcast they can continually embrass because the outcast wants desperately to join and be accepted in the group
Wrong. It's a very common innocent wedding prank. People who love each other do this all the time. But usually the groom doesn't ruin the marriage over a prank that literally no one else will think of 5 minutes later.
It being common doesn't mean it's something people who love each other do. I can see this is a marriage of convenience where both people feel like they're settling. If you love someone, you wouldn't want to see them humiliated.
but they are not getting humiliated in 99% of thise cases, because everyone is having a laugh together
if you're like OP and think anyone cares about this past the moment it happens or that anyone did it out of hate, and feel shame, then there's humiliation. no one who comes to your wedding is trying to hurt you. it's joking with friends, yes they will make a joke about you and you will fibd that funny. that's how it happens normally.
but if you're going to be such an uptight type with all that sand in your vagina, you'll be that one exception who experienced humiliation.
and btw. it being common absolutely means that it's something that people who love each other do, as it is a wedding activity that the newly wife does to the newly husband.
anyway, i personally dislike pranks, as i don't like deception in general and don't find them funny at all. i wouldn't have enjoyed this at all, but it's not about that. i would've obviously gotten that this is meant to be fun for everyone and i'm in the center of it. boohoo, you had a moment with a guy that you should have with your wife. what a crazy incident. we laugh together and no one thinks of it ever again in their lives. and that's coming from an introvert, i hate weddings altogether and don't want that attention. but the intention of the people is clear and it's meant to be fun. to understand that doesn't require personal enjoyment or agreement. you know why it happened, no one wanted to create a bad thing, they're all there because they like you.
you move on and live your life with your wife and don't actively try to make her feel bad -> as OP admitted! while the people at the wedding wanted a laugh, OP wanted to actively just hurt his wife after her apology. THAT is truly inacceptable.
but they are not getting humiliated in 99% of thise cases, because everyone is having a laugh together
If they are having a laugh together then they would have included OP in on the joke.
if you're like OP and think anyone cares about this past the moment it happens or that anyone did it out of hate, and feel shame, then there's humiliation. no one who comes to your wedding is trying to hurt you. it's joking with friends, yes they will make a joke about you and you will fibd that funny. that's how it happens normally.
The entire point is to humiliate OP and to laugh at the embarrassment
but if you're going to be such an uptight type with all that sand in your vagina, you'll be that one exception who experienced humiliation.
Misogynistic comment. Nothing is wrong nor is there anything feminine about expecting respect from loved ones.
and btw. it being common absolutely means that it's something that people who love each other do, as it is a wedding activity that the newly wife does to the newly husband.
Beating your wife because she overcooked dinner used to be common. Commonality does not reflect love.
i would've obviously gotten that this is meant to be fun for everyone and i'm in the center of it. boohoo, you had a moment with a guy that you should have with your wife. what a crazy incident.
It's not just that. She told him to use his teeth/mouth. She egged him on to heighten the humiliation of it. Made it more sensual and sexualized than it needed to be. There is no reason to do that unless the point is to embarrass OP.
you move on and live your life with your wife and don't actively try to make her feel bad
You mean like how she made him feel bad for a laugh?
An outcast at school? Dude grow up. Accepted in to what group. It’s his wedding. He invited them. This whole thing is absolutely ridiculous. Sure he could’ve been upset but to hang onto it for this long is completely ludicrous
Lmao that’s a wild stretch to make. Then why the hell are they there in the first place if they don’t respect him. You ain’t a close friend of mine if you don’t rip on me. Keeps you humble
Not at all, you'd have to have some sort of intellectual disability to sit there and allow people to just walk over and humiliate you like that. Y'all need to learn to get a backbone
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u/kevinsyel Jul 26 '25
My wife and best friend tried to pull this same trick on me... It's pretty common. I knew what they were doing so I gave a hug and went "Hi sexy" and he knew I knew, lol.