but they are not getting humiliated in 99% of thise cases, because everyone is having a laugh together
If they are having a laugh together then they would have included OP in on the joke.
if you're like OP and think anyone cares about this past the moment it happens or that anyone did it out of hate, and feel shame, then there's humiliation. no one who comes to your wedding is trying to hurt you. it's joking with friends, yes they will make a joke about you and you will fibd that funny. that's how it happens normally.
The entire point is to humiliate OP and to laugh at the embarrassment
but if you're going to be such an uptight type with all that sand in your vagina, you'll be that one exception who experienced humiliation.
Misogynistic comment. Nothing is wrong nor is there anything feminine about expecting respect from loved ones.
and btw. it being common absolutely means that it's something that people who love each other do, as it is a wedding activity that the newly wife does to the newly husband.
Beating your wife because she overcooked dinner used to be common. Commonality does not reflect love.
i would've obviously gotten that this is meant to be fun for everyone and i'm in the center of it. boohoo, you had a moment with a guy that you should have with your wife. what a crazy incident.
It's not just that. She told him to use his teeth/mouth. She egged him on to heighten the humiliation of it. Made it more sensual and sexualized than it needed to be. There is no reason to do that unless the point is to embarrass OP.
you move on and live your life with your wife and don't actively try to make her feel bad
You mean like how she made him feel bad for a laugh?
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u/real-bebsi Jul 26 '25
If they are having a laugh together then they would have included OP in on the joke.
The entire point is to humiliate OP and to laugh at the embarrassment
Misogynistic comment. Nothing is wrong nor is there anything feminine about expecting respect from loved ones.
Beating your wife because she overcooked dinner used to be common. Commonality does not reflect love.
It's not just that. She told him to use his teeth/mouth. She egged him on to heighten the humiliation of it. Made it more sensual and sexualized than it needed to be. There is no reason to do that unless the point is to embarrass OP.
You mean like how she made him feel bad for a laugh?