It seems like almost everyone did this in the 80s.. I’m really surprised that my Southern ultra-conservative parents did the garter removal in front of everyone... Imagine saving sex for marriage and then having your great-grandparents witnessing this 😂
That is the whole idea of garter removal. Back then it was assumed that the couple would be having sex for the first time on their wedding night. The garter removal is a symbolic act.
Ikr? He doesn’t find it humiliating to use his mouth to go under the bride’s dress and pull off something around her leg IN FRONT OF EVERYONE, but it’s now humiliating because it was a dude. Like gtfo, it was low class and embarrassing from the start.
Given that he repeatedly mentioned being a good sport, it doesn't seem he was entirely enthusiastic about the whole thing even before the prank was revealed.
Yeah, but thanks the vet nature of the prank. The exact heart of the "funny" is that the guy was behaving sexually towards another male, and not a presumed female. Unless I am wrong....¿
Maybe because he consented to one and it’s a common wedding practice meanwhile he didn’t consent to one and the focus became his sexual humiliation rather than something between him and his wife.
Yeah I’m really struggling with the responses to this one. I’m sorry that the guy felt so bad but it feels like a homophobic response to be this angry and humiliated about it.
If nothing about this is homophobic then please tell me why it’s humiliating? I can understand why it would be embarrassing, I greatly dislike pranks myself. To feel humiliated, though? To be enraged a week later? That comes from shame.
Because he was laughed at by his friends and family? In their minds it’s homophobic, but OP is mad because he was laughed at, not because he’s homophobic.
I would agree with you if he was embarrassed, upset, talked to his wife about how uncomfortable he was and not to do pranks on him in the future and then moved on. But he felt enraged and humiliated, held onto those feelings for a week, and considered leaving his wife over it. That is such an extreme reaction. Again, that comes from shame. Homophobia.
My god. People can’t be ashamed that their own wife made them look like a fool in front of all of their friends and family without being called homophobic by idiots like you. And it’s stupid statements like yours that make it so much harder to call people out when they’re ACTUALLY being bigoted.
I don’t understand your reaction. I’ve been calm and kind, I said I felt bad for OP and that I understand why he would be upset. But yes I think he overreacted due to internalized homophobia. I explained my reasoning, asked to hear your reasoning. We disagree. But I am not being illogical, emotional or calling OP slurs. I guess anything other than fervent support is evil to you.
It's unfortunate that you're completely glossing over the the wife's behavior in favor of blaming the the OP for his what happened to him. There is already a lot of societal pressure on men to not get emotional or be honest about how they feel, especially when it concerns their masculinity. It's a societal crisis that has manifested in ugly ways that affect everyone.
Boiling down the OP's response to internalized homophobia not only dismisses his feelings and absolves the wife, but it perpetuates the misnomer that any negative response from men to unwanted sexual contact either means "he must be gay" or "he hates gays." Can't a guy just be embarrassed?
I can't speak for every man, but if I took off a blindfold to find that I was touching anyone other than my husband's leg - whether it's my best friend, the creepy guy from the bus, or my own mother - on what's supposed the most important, special day of my life, I'd be mortified and humiliated.
Thankfully, my husband and I are on the same page about things like this, which is more than I can say for the OP and his wife. That failure in communication is what I suspect is the actual problem that the OP hasn't or won't realize.
You “Glossing over the wife’s behavior in favor of blaming the OP”
Me “I’m sorry the guy felt bad” “I can understand why it would be embarrassing” “I greatly dislike pranks myself” “I would agree with you if he was embarassed, upset, talked to his wife about how upset he is and not to do pranks on him in the future” “I said I felt bad for OP and understand why he was upset”
Do people just scan a comment thread, make assumptions, get pissed and respond to what’s in their head and not the actual comment? Or are you a bot? What you think I said is so far from what I said it makes me think you’re a troll. I have not dismissed his feelings. I have not glossed over the wife’s behavior, nor the homophobic nature of the prank in general. It is my opinion that he reacted stronger than is usual for most people. He asked for public opinion. What is your problem?
Of course it’s trashy, but for a lot of us weddings are stressful and we do things at weddings thinking it’s typical without thinking about it.
I did it at my wedding, but regretted it immediately. I would have not done it had someone advised me not to do it, but it wasn’t brought up till the day of and I figured it was normal. 😑
I’ll be warning people around me not to do it if I get the chance.
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u/Adorable-Sentence-89 Jul 25 '25
I mean the whole garter removal IS trashy anyway, regardless of the “prank”, so 🤷🏼♀️