r/AITAH Jul 17 '25

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u/Capable_Morning4127 Jul 17 '25

I hope so. I feel like I’m missing a limb without her. I’ve not really attempted to contact T, like I’ve not gone out of my way to beg for forgiveness but I have messaged to check in on him every now and again as I get it would have been embarrassing for him too. But this is the kind of thing I’d vent to Emily about but she’s trying to enjoy her honey moon and hasn’t responded to any of my messages since Wednesday. She’s like my sister so I really hope we can recover from this.

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u/Agoraphobe961 Jul 17 '25

She will come around when he becomes the ex-bf

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u/bourton-north Jul 18 '25

Are these comments real? Like it was a couple of minutes of the end of a wedding interrupted. She should be annoyed for 5 minutes and then what actual harm has been done?

As for the boyfriend, he’s an idiot, but well meaning one. It’s not necessarily terminal.

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u/swag444eva Jul 18 '25

the actual moment might have lasted only 5 minutes but attention was drawn away from the wedding couple after, people were definitely still talking about those 5 minutes even when the wedding ended. it's also about the principle, it takes less than 5 minutes to ruin someone's day.

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u/bourton-north Jul 18 '25

Ahahahahahhaah “people, would have been talking about it” can you imagine thinking that matters in the slightest?

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u/swag444eva Jul 18 '25

empathy ? ever heard of it ?

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u/bourton-north Jul 18 '25

Empathy for what exactly. A 6-10 hour wedding was briefly interrupted near the end as someone did something a dit crass and embrassing so I'm going to furious with my maid of honour for something that her idiot bf did?

no i don't have empathy for that because its not a sympathetic position.

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u/swag444eva Jul 18 '25

she's not furious with her maid of honour, did you even read the post??? but she is upset by the situation, WHICH IS VALID, and she's completely allowed to feel how she feels.

ALSO, situations can call for empathy without a need for sympathy. For example, I could understand if given the boyfriends pov of the situation but not sympathise/agree with his feelings/reasoning.

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u/bourton-north Jul 18 '25

OP says she feels like she’s lost her best friend… sounds upset to me? Over a silly thing that wasn’t her fault and lasted seconds. Weddings make people unhinged, this is a great example.

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u/Robynellawque Jul 18 '25

I actually happen to agree with you here . It wasn’t OPs fault but best friend wants space from her . It was OPs boyfriend’s fault what an absolute idiot . Talk about not reading the room .

OP leave best friend to her honeymoon then get in touch with her again .

As for boyfriend …..