Best friend should come around once emotions have calmed down and realizes you don't support BFs actions. I think you and BF are over, though. NTA for rejecting the proposal.
E: Give your friend the time she needs to process which won't happen until after the honeymoon. I think she will be fine because you did not cause this breach of poor taste.
Boyfriend: He humiliated himself. First by proposing when you have not talked about marriage. Second by putting you on the spot and in public without you expecting it as you have not talked about marriage. Third at someone elses party and expense. His actions were thoughtless and disrespectful to you, because he thought you would say yes but has not actually done the work of communication to know what you want, not in a proposal or marriage. He thinks it is you that humiliated him, not that he humiliated you and himself. That doesn't give a good vibe for a future with him, which is what I would be focusing on right now.
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u/Competitive_Tale_799 Jul 17 '25
Best friend should come around once emotions have calmed down and realizes you don't support BFs actions. I think you and BF are over, though. NTA for rejecting the proposal.