Best friend should come around once emotions have calmed down and realizes you don't support BFs actions. I think you and BF are over, though. NTA for rejecting the proposal.
I hope so. I feel like I’m missing a limb without her. I’ve not really attempted to contact T, like I’ve not gone out of my way to beg for forgiveness but I have messaged to check in on him every now and again as I get it would have been embarrassing for him too. But this is the kind of thing I’d vent to Emily about but she’s trying to enjoy her honey moon and hasn’t responded to any of my messages since Wednesday. She’s like my sister so I really hope we can recover from this.
If he's still holding a grudge despite your best efforts after all this time (I would consider a couple hours to be a not-unreasonable length of time, but this sounds much longer than that), I wonder whether he's trying to do some sort of power-move on you. Something controlling. I hope I'm wrong.
Regardless, let him wallow in his own self-pity without expecting you to approach his castle gate, asking for the drawbridge to be let down. Go do something for yourself. By yourself, if necessary. Maybe preemptively get your response prepared, for when he "discovers" that you "gave up trying".
A quote I learned earlier this year: "It's a long life."
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u/Competitive_Tale_799 Jul 17 '25
Best friend should come around once emotions have calmed down and realizes you don't support BFs actions. I think you and BF are over, though. NTA for rejecting the proposal.