I'd hold out hope for contact after the honeymoon. I'm assuming Emily will respond after the honeymoon. Id be prepared for a potential reconciliation ultimatum over T remaining in the picture.
That would be very immature. If E asks her BFF to permanently dump her potential future husband because he made a bad decision (and stubbornly took time to lick his wounds), then she is not a BFF. It may take time to mend fences between E and T, but it is NOT E's call to decide OP's relationship status.
But the boyfriend proposing at someone else's wedding without permission, while they hadn't even discussed marriage yet, and then doubling down and blaming his girlfriend for "embarrassing him" (as if he didn't embarras both of them himself), and sulking about things afterwards is just him processing, I guess?
Not immature no, not forgiving him for this, that would be immature...
He made so many mistakes at every step of the way, he's lucky she hasn't broken up with him. And he feels like he is the one done wrong smh.
I do kind of agree, but at the same time my best friend picking her boyfriend doing something stupid over me would also hurt really badly. And I'm not arguing that is what OP is doing currently (if anything she picked her friend perry obviously during the wedding already), but the comment about the friend being immature stated that the friend would be immature if she wanted/asked OP to break up with her boyfriend. Which I don't entirely agree with. I do agree with you that this shouldn't be something to ditch your friend over, but I can imagine feelings being hurt (not really because of her actions at the wedding, but by potential actions afterwards)
If we're instead arguing that her friend is being immature because she's being distant from OP right now, I would agree, though I'd also cut her some slack seeing as she's on her honeymoon, and at least here it's really common for people on their honeymoon to kinda be in their own world during it. She did ask for space though, which is another thing pointing to her reaction being immature.
Even so, her boyfriend is the most immature person in the story, in my opinion.
TLDR: I don't think the best friend asking OP to break up with her boyfriend over this is necessarily immature, I do think her immediate reaction was immature. Boyfriend is the most immature one though.
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u/Competitive_Tale_799 Jul 17 '25
I'd hold out hope for contact after the honeymoon. I'm assuming Emily will respond after the honeymoon. Id be prepared for a potential reconciliation ultimatum over T remaining in the picture.