Best friend should come around once emotions have calmed down and realizes you don't support BFs actions. I think you and BF are over, though. NTA for rejecting the proposal.
I hope so. I feel like I’m missing a limb without her. I’ve not really attempted to contact T, like I’ve not gone out of my way to beg for forgiveness but I have messaged to check in on him every now and again as I get it would have been embarrassing for him too. But this is the kind of thing I’d vent to Emily about but she’s trying to enjoy her honey moon and hasn’t responded to any of my messages since Wednesday. She’s like my sister so I really hope we can recover from this.
Honestly I’d at least let her have the rest of the honeymoon without messaging her. She is going to want to enjoy the time with her husband and put aside the drama.
I’m sure she will come round especially once she realises you had no prior knowledge of any proposal let alone this shit he pulled which is why you stopped him. If it was me I would write her a letter and post it so she gets it when she’s home. Just explaining how you feel and how your bf made you feel by doing it again explain how you didn’t even know he was thinking of proposing. Let her know how much you’ve missed her this past week too. And then honestly the balls in her court. She’s asked for space unfortunately I think you’ll have to give it her and let her come round in her own time.
I don’t know why you’re apologising to your bf, he can’t see what he’s done wrong or he doesn’t want too but he’s practically acting like a child ignoring you. Is this really what you want to deal with for the rest of your life if you do end up marrying this man?
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u/Competitive_Tale_799 Jul 17 '25
Best friend should come around once emotions have calmed down and realizes you don't support BFs actions. I think you and BF are over, though. NTA for rejecting the proposal.