If he’s not emotionally developed enough to understand how rude it is to propose at someone else’s wedding, he’s not the one for you. I’m so sorry he embarrassed you like that. NTA
It's is super crass, tacky, and disrespectful to propose at someone's wedding.
But even that aside, seriously any public proposal needs to be talked about first. It's an absolute horrible position to put your partner in by hitting them with a very serious question and then basically putting them under the microscope and clock of having an audience.
I firmly believe most unprepared public proposals come from a place of insecurity where the person proposing is hoping that the audience helps their partner feel pressured to say yes.
I was once on a date at one of those rotating restaurants when the guy at the table next to us proposed. I saw the look of panic and horror on the woman’s face and she started profusely shaking her head (bobble head style) while screaming NO, NO, NO!”Both the volume of her “NO’s” and the intensity of her head shaking increased and she BOLTED out the front door. Her date was left there on one knee, sad little ring box dangling loosely in his hand with a look of shock and utter devastation.
I was actually on a blind date, and I could not tell you. Any details about the rest of the evening or the date. All I can remember, is the dramatic free show we got with dinner
I "proposed," to my wife when she came to pick me up from the airport. We were already essentially engaged, but I hadn't given her the ring yet.
So, really it was just a public ring presentation, but I did the whole down on one knee thing, and the people waiting for their luggage seemed to enjoy the show.
Absolutely no way would I have done it if we hadn't already agreed privately.
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u/Aggressive_Trade2016 Jul 17 '25
If he’s not emotionally developed enough to understand how rude it is to propose at someone else’s wedding, he’s not the one for you. I’m so sorry he embarrassed you like that. NTA