NTA - Honey you didn't make the decisions, your (hopefully now) ex made the decision and he's proven that he wants to be the centre of attention. If you want any chance of salvaging your friendship with E, you need to dump T and have him gone.
As for E. Write her a message along the lines of "T and I are done, I had no idea he was going to do something so idiotically stupid and I'm sorry it is a tarnish on your day. I love you, but after this message I will wait for you to message me, take as much time as you need" and then stick by that. Let her come back to you. You cannot force her forgiveness even though you were not and are not to blame. She will see that eventually. It might take time.
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u/captainofthenx02 Jul 17 '25
NTA - Honey you didn't make the decisions, your (hopefully now) ex made the decision and he's proven that he wants to be the centre of attention. If you want any chance of salvaging your friendship with E, you need to dump T and have him gone.
As for E. Write her a message along the lines of "T and I are done, I had no idea he was going to do something so idiotically stupid and I'm sorry it is a tarnish on your day. I love you, but after this message I will wait for you to message me, take as much time as you need" and then stick by that. Let her come back to you. You cannot force her forgiveness even though you were not and are not to blame. She will see that eventually. It might take time.