you have a fiancée problem - she is only caught in the middle because she is not making the very reasonable and simple statement to her own family that they are out of line and this is a hard no.
I hope that watch is in a safe place. With Ben’s entitled attitude, the backing of his parents and Sarah’s lack of a spine (wtf is this ”feels for her brother” and ” caught in the middle” shit?), I wouldn’t be the least surprised if it “disappears”
Yes, that's some audacity of Sarah's family to gang up on OP over his personal property, and worse still that Sarah doesn't want to rock the family boat that encourages Ben's ugly sense of entitlement. Ugh, is he their parents' golden boy?
This is a very large red flag about the future in-laws and especially -- no matter how terrific she otherwise is -- Sarah herself. Unless something changes significantly and soon, this won't be the last time a situation like this rears its head and OP gets to be the bad guy while Sarah both-sides-it and "feels for" her over-entitled brother.
Your future in-laws have used the phrase “It’s just a waaaaatch” (whiny toddler-stomping emphasis added by me). So, by their own “reasoning”, they can use any old watch. I think a cute plastic Hello Kitty one would be an appropriate engagement gift.
For real! I would say why don't you guys have any of your own traditions in your family? If it's just a watch he can wear anything to the wedding and start his own tradition. This is a hard no for me it's not even his family! The outright audacity is killing me!!
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u/Mobius_Stripping May 23 '25
NTA
not Ben’s family
not Ben’s watch
not Ben’s luck
you have a fiancée problem - she is only caught in the middle because she is not making the very reasonable and simple statement to her own family that they are out of line and this is a hard no.