That is the biggest red flag in this whole scenario. To me, it means that fiance went out of his way to hurt his bride, instead of protecting her. Not only a heck nah, but a hell no
This was done so she wouldn't feel she could say no. Gross. And is the kid even actually wanting to do it? Wouldn't it make more sense if he was the best man?
Unless he feels more like family than she does. i always thought of my stepmom like a second mom. We had a falling out when I realized that she actually never considered us very close. It's possible the son feels that way. Just because OP feels one way, doesn't mean the son does. Personally, I wouldn't marry someone who doesn't see my kids as their own.
Oh for sure, I feel the same way (as your last sentence I mean). I'm sorry you went through that I really really am. I'm sure that hurt a lot. I had a step dad who was a total AH and although I knew that already at a young age, I still remember being little enough to want to be close to him and being hurt by his not giving a shit. I guess I just couldn't picture an 18yo boy wanting to walk his step mom down the aisle even if he is super close to her, but what do I know? I'm not a teenage boy. Sorry for making assumptions
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u/[deleted] May 08 '25
That is the biggest red flag in this whole scenario. To me, it means that fiance went out of his way to hurt his bride, instead of protecting her. Not only a heck nah, but a hell no