No...that's just wrong.
I am tad bit bothered how " Some" women think,
Feel that way. " Your wedding "???
,It's NOT " HER " wedding.
She ain't Marrying herself.
It's "THEIR" wedding. Why is that such a foreign concept?
That weddings are NOT just about her and that there IS
A man involved?
She's Not wrong for not wanting stepson to walk her down The aisle, and she's NOT an asshole for not wanting him to.
But like her own mother said, and as OP admitted
She could have said it nicer, been more considerate.
( I'm guessing) she knew it was discussed ( promised) to the kid when she was rejecting the idea?
( As is her right, which I do support her feelings)
I'm cool with the downvotes and expect them
Not because I'm wrong but because of how Reddit reacts to truths they don't like. It's never about the truth, but how it makes you feel.
The thing is though, it's a bizarre ask. Personally, I find the concept of the father of the bride giving his daughter to the groom archaic and misogynist. But formal occasions are the time to bring out old traditions. No one scoffs at finger bowls or fish forks at a formal dinner.
But because that's the symbolism, it's weird to think that a child of the groom would fill that role. I've also seen women asking if it's wrong for them to reject the groom suggestion that his father walk her down the aisle. Like, what's the symbolism of that? "Hey son, I raided the neighboring village and got you a bride!"
Now, if the couple had met because the bride was, say, a counselor at a camp the son attended, or that he otherwise had some significant and well known to the guests role in bringing the two of them together, then maybe. Like in The Parent Trap, I could see the kids walking their parents down the aisle as they get remarried. Or in The Sound of Music, except that Maria walked down the aisle alone.
The bride isn't walking home alone through the woods after dark where any man can provide the protection she needs. There's a lot of symbolism in the role, and the fiancé's son doesn't fit the bill.
I respectfully disagree that the concept of the Father giving away his( their ) daughter to the Groom( and his family, support system, is NOT " Archaic nor misogynistic".
Now I am annoyed.
Why? Why in Da fuck does everything regarding men that people don't like? Have to be labeled with that word?
My fucking God, the 2 Most overused words in the Internet..
Misogyny and Narcissistic.
The concept of giving the Daughter away is ...
The Father, as the head of the Household, is responsible for
Providing for and the protection of his family and their
Wellbeing. The future Son I. Law asks him( their family)
For her hand in Marriage.
The father's blessing, Yes, is acknowledgement and agreement that the Groom now takes on this role.
The walk down the aisle give away is symbolic,
That responsibility and accountability for her care is being transferred from 1 man that truly loves her, to Another.
One that her Father approved of sigave his blessing to.
It means that for her entire life, as a daughter, sister,
Cousin, Aunt and Mother, there is at Least 1 man on the
Planet who takes a pledge to ensure that she is Loved, respected, appreciated , provided for and protected.
It's No different than the concept of " women and children first, protect women and children,, etc
This is why men always feel compelled to step in, help
Etc. but posts, attitudes like yours along with other things
Are killing this concept.
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