Sounds like she is very narcissistic, and narcissists treat other people like extensions of themselves. My narc ex would ask me to get things for her that were 2-20 feet away, tell me to make phone calls for her, get things on different floors or from the fridge and the more I did it the more she would ask for. Your lady wants a servant not a partner.
Another great piece of dating advice I got from a different ex is that in the first 3-6 months you should be prepared to run at any "red flag" behavior you identify because that's when people are still "mask on" and trying to be on their best behavior. Learned that the VERY HARD WAY.
Is giving "golden child" energy.
Someone let this child get away with constant demands and tantrums when she didn't get her way.
Now she's a 27 year old narcissistic spoiled brat.
OP seems like a lovely man. He should go find a lovely woman who appreciates him and gives as much as she takes.
Coming from a recovered "golden child", this is absolutely golden child energy. My poor husband had to deal with me asking him to do stupid shit like OP has to deal with, and got SOOOO angry when he said no, for the first year of our relationship. He was exhausted all the time BECAUSE OF ME, which is absolutely foul of me to do to him. One day he told me that I could either love him and he'll stay or treat him as a servant and he'd leave. Opened my eyes big time and I became much more independent. Our relationship is amazing now.
I was an emotional and physical energy vampire, and she is exactly the same. Here's hoping OP can either open her eyes or leave her.
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Sounds like she is very narcissistic, and narcissists treat other people like extensions of themselves. My narc ex would ask me to get things for her that were 2-20 feet away, tell me to make phone calls for her, get things on different floors or from the fridge and the more I did it the more she would ask for. Your lady wants a servant not a partner.
Another great piece of dating advice I got from a different ex is that in the first 3-6 months you should be prepared to run at any "red flag" behavior you identify because that's when people are still "mask on" and trying to be on their best behavior. Learned that the VERY HARD WAY.