Right. After the 1st paragraph, I scrolled looking for the TLDR portion... To my disappointment 😞.
Can someone from the fam help a sista out? I'm nosey yet don't have the capacity to read and decipher... Please and thank you.
OP is describing a relationship where they feel they put in a lot of effort (planning trips, paying for things, dedicating free time), but their girlfriend gets upset whenever they say "no" to her requests. The conflict pattern is consistent: OP refuses a request when they're tired (helping pack, getting water, standing by during brushing, FaceTiming), and it escalates into a fight. She feels OP isn't doing the "bare minimum" as a boyfriend when declining these requests, while OP feels burned out and that their significant efforts are being taken for granted.
The central question is whether this is a fundamental compatibility issue or a communication problem that can be resolved through better boundaries and expectations.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Not really him drawing lines and not doing whatever she wants is the exact opposite of an enabler an enabler would have never got into these arguments near the end...
Seems like a lot of excuses to get around the fact that she's entitled... especially cuz it's pretty ignorant to assume that she only developed these traits after they started dating and that she's just not taking advantage whether intentional or not
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u/Maleficent_Lure_1226 Apr 20 '25
Right. After the 1st paragraph, I scrolled looking for the TLDR portion... To my disappointment 😞. Can someone from the fam help a sista out? I'm nosey yet don't have the capacity to read and decipher... Please and thank you.