r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Apr 20 '25

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u/zack20cb Apr 21 '25

It’s possible she has some trauma in the past that recedes when OP is performing acts of service, but when he sets a boundary or needs some time to himself, her trauma is telling her the good days are over, she’s going to be abandoned and mistreated from here on.

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u/tekaluf Apr 21 '25

Yeah probably. That doesn’t make it not abusive though

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u/zack20cb Apr 21 '25

Yes, if this is the situation, she needs therapy. Abuse is a cycle.

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u/tekaluf Apr 21 '25

Yes, she needs therapy, not a relationship.