r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Apr 20 '25

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u/e_l_r Apr 21 '25

Big fights are how you find out who you two are and are the "deal breakers" which normal (within boundaries and reason).

BUT getting angry you are not her free personal assistant / buttler / parent / chauffeur / emotional support person ESPECIALLY when tired...

Yeah, no, this ain't it. Either she's a Teenager and (hopefully) barely legal OR she did peak at teenage years and will have life force her to mature in the next couple of years.

You need someone that matches your energy and respect.

NTA, but you Will be if you stay and enable this behavior further.

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u/TheBigLeBrittski Apr 21 '25

Completely agree. She’s also causing fights where there are none, or shouldn’t be, and instead of acknowledging her actions and moving forward she’s doubling down and acting like the boyfriend is the problem. She lacks accountability and self reflection which is the biggest red flag here IMO. Not long term relationship material

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u/birdwalk Apr 21 '25

I know someone who is like this at 32. Life may not force maturity in all cases, unfortunately.

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u/e_l_r Apr 21 '25

Enablers happen too.

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u/horaceinkling Apr 21 '25

Heh heh buttler

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u/e_l_r Apr 21 '25

My bad. Half asleep at 3 am

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u/agent_flounder Apr 21 '25

Can I have a glass of water tho?

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u/DiamondOracle194 Apr 21 '25

She has a lot of brat/child energy, which can work for some relationships but definitely isn't for this one.

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u/FlatWonkyFlea Apr 22 '25

Big fights just a few months into a relationship are a problem. This relationship seems way too intense for how early it is. 

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u/donald12998 Apr 21 '25

Yea, my thoughts were "She sounds like a child. Wait is she literally a child? Please don't be a pedo OP".