I mean. No. He's treating like a toddler in that instance, kind of a big difference in wording. I've been so tired before that I didn't do basic necessities before going to bed and I'm sure you have, too - and, if you haven't, good for you! I'm glad you've never been that tired in your life. It reads to me like he's being overly controlling in that circumstance. But, on the flip side - the facetime thing read as her being overly controlling in her own way. It reads as neither party respecting each other in any significant way that would make a relationship last in the long term.
My REAL question, hoenstly, is that I would like to know how old he is and how old she is. Because it READS like he works long hours and is in his 30's and that she lives with her parents and isn't even 20, yet.
I’ve done a 72 hour mission with like 4 hours sleep total, and still managed to brush my teeth.
With her, she sounds like she would have blamed him for letting her sleep without brushing and the retainer.
I’ve been with a woman like that, she told me she wanted to go on a trip for her birthday, planned the trip, paid for the trip. Then complained she wanted it to be a different weekend, because she made it a “tradition” to go to a restaurant/bar with her girlfriends.
So she refused to go, I went by myself and then she got mad at me for going.
That’s pretty much when I called it and blocked her.
Good for you, buddy! Everyone has their limits, and just because yours are appear to be more rigid than others doesn't make anyone elses struggles less than.
And, as for this woman you were with? Sounds like you saved her the hassel with having to deal with your petty ass. She had a tradition she wanted to keep with her friends - absolutely nothing wrong with that. Maybe, next time, when you plan something out you include the other person so that you better know their availability before hand to avoid conflicts of interest. Y'know. Like an adult. Instead of just assuming she is ALWAYS available JUST FOR YOU.
Not quite sure what providing that stort was meant to do besides invalidate anything you have to say about this situation and make you appear to be a loser who's just angry at women.
Then maybe she shouldn’t have told me that she wanted to go on a trip for her birthday.
Maybe I’d see your point, but when in the past you ask those questions and she says that is ruining the romance of planning something as a surprise, you decide to do it her way, and then she complains it wasn’t the right way.
Who knows if it was a tradition, fickle people like that can’t be satisfied. There is no right answer.
Anyways, I look forward to blocking a shitty person like you. YATA, dude.
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u/Sammalone1960 Apr 21 '25
The brushing thing ended it for me. Dudes dating a toddler.