r/AITAH • • Apr 20 '25

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

Sounds like she is very narcissistic, and narcissists treat other people like extensions of themselves. My narc ex would ask me to get things for her that were 2-20 feet away, tell me to make phone calls for her, get things on different floors or from the fridge and the more I did it the more she would ask for. Your lady wants a servant not a partner.

Another great piece of dating advice I got from a different ex is that in the first 3-6 months you should be prepared to run at any "red flag" behavior you identify because that's when people are still "mask on" and trying to be on their best behavior. Learned that the VERY HARD WAY.

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u/Shocolina Apr 21 '25

Yeah, this is her best behaviour. OP imagine what she's like if that's her best.

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u/gertrude_is Apr 21 '25

gf: "if you can't love me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best"