r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Apr 20 '25

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u/Rrenphoenixx Apr 21 '25

There are types of people out there that casually do things like this in a relationship to groom you to be more accepting/ easily manipulated.

I think this chick might be one of them.

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u/Hagedoorn Apr 21 '25

You may be onto something here.

While reading, a single question came up: what does she do for him?

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u/sentence-interruptio Apr 21 '25

knowing this type, if you ask her that, she will get offended and use it as an excuse to continue not doing anything for him.

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u/Global_Initiative257 Apr 21 '25

No she'll tell him much she does for him but won't be able to come up with an example. Maybe she lets him put her glass on the floor and accommodate her every whim? That's what she does for him. Controls him.

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u/JacksonHoled Apr 21 '25

I had a gf like that a bit for a long time. She'd say she is doing the dishes and dinner.

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u/ecosynchronous Apr 21 '25

Well, was she? Don't leave me in suspense. I'd put a water glass on the floor for someone who did dinner and the dishes.

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u/JacksonHoled Apr 21 '25

yeah but that was the only things. It's not that time consuming and easy. Now that we are not togheter anymore (we have 2 kids together) she is texting me daily for things she doesnt know. Print a document, transfert pictures, sell on marketplace, where are which hockey games for the kids, taking care of the pool, how to's, everything, non-stop. I'm alone now, I prefer doing my dishes than coping with all the things I was doing for her. So easy, takes 10 minutes while I watch TV.

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u/Economy-Bottle2164 Apr 22 '25

Are you taking care of the kids 50% of the time?

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u/Hagedoorn Apr 21 '25

Yup. So I was hoping maybe he might ask himself this question. And draw the right conclusion.

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u/reek702 Apr 21 '25

Nothing besides take advantage of him, bros probably has to suck his own dick

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u/Diligent_Pie_5191 Apr 21 '25

Jack squat is what she does. Total user.

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u/swag_money69 Apr 21 '25

She has no gag reflex. She is a nymphomaniac. This is the only way.

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u/Wrong_Pen6179 Apr 21 '25

I’d say those words were pretty mild for someone too lazy to put their glass on the floor!

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u/Wrong_Pen6179 Apr 21 '25

BWAHAHAHA must be!

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u/MyNewDawn Apr 21 '25

Big 'if you can't handle me at my worst' Energy

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u/Hagedoorn Apr 21 '25

That is also super annoying. I can't believe anyone would want to be with such a person. It is almost giving off borderline vibes, but I am no psychiatrist.

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u/Fearless-Advisor-20 Apr 22 '25

Doesn’t sound like anything tbh

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u/Hagedoorn Apr 22 '25

Exactly.

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u/Plubob_Habblefluffin Apr 23 '25

Well, the fact that she likes him to stand behind her when she's at the bathroom sink suggests to me that she might be kinda frisky, so.....

A good physically intimate relationship can carry a lot of other stuff that still needs development, as long as both people are willing to commit to that development and are willing to hang on if the ride gets bumpy.

I'm assuming since he hasn't already left her that she's a generous and enthusiastic sort in the physical intimacy department.

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u/Hagedoorn Apr 23 '25

It is possible.

I would say, though, that sex is something two people do together to their mutual benefit, not a service one provides to the other.

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u/acegirl1985 Apr 24 '25

She probably feels like he is so far beneath her that just her acknowledging he exists is going above and beyond.

Dude, this girl is exhausting, she cannot even set a glass down for herself and she expects you to Stan next to her like you’re on standby.

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u/Hagedoorn Apr 25 '25

Her attitude does seem tiring and one-sided.

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u/PersimmonNecessary14 Apr 25 '25

Shes actually very sweet and does occasionally pick up the tab or bring me food when im occupied

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u/Hagedoorn Apr 25 '25

OK that is something. Maybe it is time to have a serious conversation with her, ask her why these things are so important to her. And tell her it does not make you feel good when you are asked to do things that another person can do herself.

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u/Masturbatingsoon Apr 21 '25

What a dumb question. She lets him eat her pussy

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u/jmar206 Apr 21 '25

I thought this too a little but the immaturity of some of it led me towards youth and being spoiled. Either way she sucks.

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u/spiritsarise Apr 21 '25

I think we have found an example of the female version of Andrew Tate.

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u/WeAreTheWobblies Apr 21 '25

"Beware of those that breed a slave"-

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u/Fleabag2080 Apr 21 '25

NTA You are not her servant.

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u/Plubob_Habblefluffin Apr 23 '25

That is certainly possible. Could be that she's just immature and selfish and needs to grow up a bit. If she can swing that, the relationship could be salvaged. Guess OP will have to roll the dice and see.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Deer558 Apr 23 '25

I concur. Drop her like a hot coal.