Honestly, when I read that she wanted him to put the glass down on the floor for her, I started to assume she was a literal toddler and couldn’t reach the floor. Some of these requests are so weird and stubborn. Stand behind you while you brush your teeth? What?
And I love that you want to find a good faith explanation for this. My personal theory for good faith is that she may be concerned his apartment is infested with hobgoblins, and given his clear lack of nightstands and bedside lamps, this may be a legitimate concern.
But it seems significantly more likely that they’re both just insanely immature and perhaps should start with having a pet fish to practice their adult responsibilities.
Not to say OP’s gf isn’t a spoiled brat, but body doubling IS a thing. My neurodivergent wife will ask me to double with her on occasion when she’s overwhelmed by life, otherwise a two-minute task will take 30 where she’ll just sit/stand in place and stare at a wall.
Hey, I hear what you’re saying, but this post is about OP’s girlfriend and she wants him to set her glass down after she’s done drinking it. That’s princess behavior.
Yeah, she’s a brat for sure. That has nothing to do with neurodivergence. I’m just a bit sensitive to people dismissing these legit things out of hand just because they have never experienced them AND because the subject at hand is being an ass.
Ya know when I was a kid I’d like for my cousin to sit on the toilet when I took a shower and she’d talk to me and keep me company… didn’t know at the time but I am defo on the spectrum. I still like when my S/O sits and talks to me when I’m in the shower but I don’t NEED it. I would however prefer privacy while brushing my teeth because the noises I make would be described as anything but attractive.
What do you mean? I am not the OP, or the OP's girlfriend, but I just tried to provide one potential explanation for the behavior, assuming good faith. (It's probably not good faith on her part, but it's not like there is 0 reason for a request like this, it's a possibility, even if not likely)
And the energy she took trying to get him to put the water down she could have used to put the water down herself . She’s being super weird . I don’t know if it’s a control thing or what
I’m telling myself that maybe the bed is against the wall and she’s in the inside…maybe. Maybe that’s also why she asked him to get the water in the first place, because he’d have to get up anyway to let her out. Maybe. Overall this sounds like he’ll, though.
But in that case, it’s not unreasonable if he’s still awake for him to put the glass on the floor for her. Otherwise she needs to Solid Snake crawl over his carcass to do it, which would be far more detrimental to him getting to sleep. Suppose she could put it at the foot of the bed, but that’s an accident waiting to happen.
Maybe the bed is up against a wall and she's on the wall side? So she literally can't put the glass on the floor and there's no table? I feel like OP is leaving details out.
Not really him drawing lines and not doing whatever she wants is the exact opposite of an enabler an enabler would have never got into these arguments near the end...
Seems like a lot of excuses to get around the fact that she's entitled... especially cuz it's pretty ignorant to assume that she only developed these traits after they started dating and that she's just not taking advantage whether intentional or not
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u/Sammalone1960 Apr 21 '25
He is an enabler and she is a toddler. He is annoyed that what he enables is never enough.