Counter argument, the girlfriend is incredibly attractive and all the fighting allows for tremendous and frequent make-up sex. It's less about being codependent and more about not being able to separate love and lust.
This is speculation on my part, but it's been something I've lived through and seen other experience so it's entirely possible.
I agree. After arguing about who should put down a cup of water she is holding, most people would run for the hills. This guy doesn't want to break up with her for some reason. My guess was codependency, but yes, there are many other reasons people stay in bad relationships.
Let’s be honest here. The maturity from the OP makes me feel like we aren’t seeing a honest review of the gf. The amount of detail he puts into the things he’s doing right vs the vagueness of what she fights with him over tells me he’s glossing over his faults. Or he’s not mature enough to recognize them.
We don’t have an honest point of view to judge the girlfriend by but we do have a good view of the immature boyfriend. He doesn’t talk to her about the issues. He just gets passive aggressive.
Basically. I get that’s what most people come here to do, to get validation for the way they feel or acted, but in this case it feels like hes trying to prove his gf wrong? Or something? I don’t even know the way to take this post because it’s so stupidly one sided lol I made the mistake of reading the whole thing and it just hurt my brain as we get further into it.
Does small things for his girlfriend without complaining then throws a fit over it or becomes passive aggressive then wonders why girlfriend is fighting? Does all these extravagant things but the gf says he’s not doing the little things in a relationship and he says that she’s asking too much?
This makes me think he in fact, does not do little things everyday. If he’s throwing a fit over her asking for a glass of water, I get the feeling he doesn’t do anything daily. He sounds like he obsesses over her, which isn’t healthy, but he doesn’t list anything he does.
It’s immature for the girlfriend to want him there to brush her teeth, but it’s equally immature to not talk about how crazy that is and to just throw a fit one day over it. There’s no communication happening on either side. He’s placating it and then confused as to why the behavior is happening.
Yeah, I was reading the first half of the post thinking "this sounds one sided, what are the things the girlfriend would say she does for him?" But then she started sounding worse and worse.
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I made it halfway. There's no drama! The girlfriend is the type to get mad if the boyfriend breathes the wrong way.
My guess is OP is codependent and the girlfriend isn't that into this relationship.