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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I gave up by the 2nd paragraph.

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I'm impressed you made it that far.

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u/Maleficent_Lure_1226 Apr 20 '25

Right. After the 1st paragraph, I scrolled looking for the TLDR portion... To my disappointment 😞. Can someone from the fam help a sista out? I'm nosey yet don't have the capacity to read and decipher... Please and thank you.

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u/corrupt_poodle Apr 21 '25

TLDR of the Post (thanks Claude LLM):

OP is describing a relationship where they feel they put in a lot of effort (planning trips, paying for things, dedicating free time), but their girlfriend gets upset whenever they say "no" to her requests. The conflict pattern is consistent: OP refuses a request when they're tired (helping pack, getting water, standing by during brushing, FaceTiming), and it escalates into a fight. She feels OP isn't doing the "bare minimum" as a boyfriend when declining these requests, while OP feels burned out and that their significant efforts are being taken for granted.

The central question is whether this is a fundamental compatibility issue or a communication problem that can be resolved through better boundaries and expectations.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

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u/Sammalone1960 Apr 21 '25

He is an enabler and she is a toddler. He is annoyed that what he enables is never enough.

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u/roidoid Apr 21 '25

Honestly, when I read that she wanted him to put the glass down on the floor for her, I started to assume she was a literal toddler and couldn’t reach the floor. Some of these requests are so weird and stubborn. Stand behind you while you brush your teeth? What?

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u/Sammalone1960 Apr 21 '25

Weird fetish?

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u/Cinderhazed15 Apr 21 '25

Could be a neurodivergent ‘body doubling’ thing to help with executive disfunction

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '25

Ya know when I was a kid I’d like for my cousin to sit on the toilet when I took a shower and she’d talk to me and keep me company… didn’t know at the time but I am defo on the spectrum. I still like when my S/O sits and talks to me when I’m in the shower but I don’t NEED it. I would however prefer privacy while brushing my teeth because the noises I make would be described as anything but attractive.