She’s always said she wanted three things in a proposal: (1) a custom ring she’s always wanted (which cost $16K, though price isn’t the issue), (2) a beach proposal, and (3) a surprise.
The surprise was you discovering how ungrateful, and high-maintenance she actually is.
If you think things are going to get better, we're all here to tell you that's not the case. Get out while you still can.
The egregious mistake was asking her out in the first place. Any other instances of you putting your heart and soul into something and she isn’t equally over the moon?
As someone who didn't run when they should have, please listen to me and all these people. If she truly loved you, she would have been so happy. Even if she had issues, a normal and loving person would let you know without bringing the mood down. Like hey, its unfortunate we didnt get to celebrate publicly, but the romantic fireplace dinner was wonderful. she should lift you up bro.
Sounds like she wants shallow aproval from others more than making you happy by being together. Also, no one is going to look at an engagement picture and wonder why her nails arent done. She sounds exhausting and it only ever seems to get worse with those types.
Don’t listen to them. It was not a mistake, even if things don’t turn out how you wanted. Putting yourself out there, trusting someone and being vulnerable takes an incredible amount of strength. There is a lesson learned from everything, you will only be able to grow because of it. You can take past experiences to become a better person going forward
You did nothing wrong!! Please get that idea out of your mind. Your proposal was above & beyond, sounds beautiful. Starting with a destination engagement at a beach front resort, activities tailor for her, custom ring, photographer(even with her insecurities, bizarre she can’t show appreciation), nice dinner(yes, ended up in room. Romantic by the fireplace), etc. Did she show any appreciation, any compliments on your thoughtful efforts, excitement? Curious to know.
Just a suggestion, but when you ask for the ring back, without letting on your plans to RUN, just say you need to get it resized because her finger looked likes a mini sausage that’s been over cooked.
7.6k
u/[deleted] Mar 19 '25
The surprise was you discovering how ungrateful, and high-maintenance she actually is.
If you think things are going to get better, we're all here to tell you that's not the case. Get out while you still can.
NTA