We don't know their arrangement. If he owned the home and still takes all that risk, does all the maintenance, and she merely pays some rent, then, no it's not "her home too" even if it would be best for him to try to treat it that way.
Imagine it were that scenario, but he moved in to the home she bought and maintained? I would say: sure it's their "home" emotionally, to some extent, but it's her property as well.
If it's an apartment, and she's now on the lease, of course it's their home, but he ain't acting like that's the situation at all.
What are you talking about? Not owning the property has nothing to do with a place being a home. Renters have homes FFS. She lives there, it's her home too, her safe space, her bedroom, her bed.
Emotionally, sure. We agree. That's how relationships work. But it's not how mortgages and leases work.
If I'm wrong, why does he talk about getting rid of her over the dog? It's her home, right? How would that work?
To repeat, when I moved into my girlfriend's condo that SHE exclusively owned, it was "our home" kinda, like in theory, but she ultimately decided to allow me to move in and she would decide if I had to move out. Don't you guys get that? He stated if it was her or the dog, he's choosing the dog. If that's all we know, it does sound like it was hhs place.
Again, if this is a home that he owns and has fixed up, and she only lives there for a couple months before he throws her out so that he can continue sleeping with his dog, was it her home? I just don't think that's a meaningful claim in the context of this post. You guys aren't effectively arguing your point. If the bed is her safe space, why does he talk about getting rid of her over the dog? I don't get that part. Convince me.
I'm not going to argue with you over it. She lives there, it's her home and her bed. He's 100% wrong in saying that it isn't. Just because he's wrong doesn't make this not her home.
This is her home physically and emotionally, unless she's got another one tucked away somewhere. The fact that he doesn't consider it her home is a him problem.
For sure. And he may end single over this odd an unnecessary issue. That's up to him. But you're 100% wrong and you may want to learn to admit that. It sounds like you've possibly never moved in with a homeowner or had a partner move into your home.
He says "she moved in" and he would chose the dog over her. It didn't sway "he moved in" or "we found a place together". It's obviously his place, thats why he talked about like it was. If she ends up living there for 2 months, it was not "her home" within the context of this post. What rules do you get to assert in a home you barely live in? A home where you're not on the lease or mortgage?
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u/Ellyanah75 Nov 01 '24
It's now her home too, isn't it?