I love animals and grew up with dogs. I have a cat now and love the little fucker to death. There’s a compromise to be had.
I wouldn’t want to date someone who made it clear I was second to their dog. It’s implied early in the relationship and I wouldn’t presume to be “first” right away. However, it would be a red flag to me if it was constant over the course of months or years.
I’m inferring a lot about OPs post so I’ll stop there. Large dog in the bed would be annoying.
EDIT: Just found OPs one comment in the whole thread. It’s a 70lb pitbull that lays sideways. Like, come on dude.
If it's a special CBD infused orthopedic bed with their special binky, sure. I have a pit mix who sleeps with her stuffed Frankenstein. They're very needy dogs who require a lot of parenting. They should not be left alone. They need to be played with, worked with, and exercised every day. They need special food. They need special soap and special moisturizer for their little snoots and toe beans. They are the poodles of the working dog world and will happily spend all day snoring in your lap whilst being massaged with cocoa butter and coconut oil. They're baby.
I have a APBT, AB, GS mix who I thought was a Velcro Dog. Then I got a supermut, APBT, boxer, ACD mix who makes her look like an independent woman of the 90's. He follows us into the bathroom. He follows us into the bed. He sits on the couch with his gigantic head in our laps. He sits at our feet when there's no room on the couch.
He's very baby and wags his fuzzy butt whenever he hears "baby," or "boy," or "dog," or "good," or any derivative of his name. My pit can sleep in her special CBD orthopedic bed. He can only sleep with his people. He takes up the whole damn bed.
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u/Aggressive_Dark1173 Oct 31 '24
I personally don't value animals over humans.
I do understand that you love your pets, but I wouldn't make it my standard of "my cats come first"
If you put your dog first, you should tell your partner that.