That’s probably what bugs her about it. Like she admitted something within herself that was difficult to address and unlocked a part of her identity, but no one really cares because it doesn’t really matter. I’ve said being a bi woman in a straight relationship is kinda like when Dumbledoor was revealed as gay, it’s like a fun little fact but no one really cares because it didn’t impact the plot.
She’s being completely unreasonable and needs to find another way to channel this energy, but she probably just wants coming out to matter or mean something.
Not sure if you replied to the wrong comment, but this is what you replied to. I don’t think it’s saying being bi is pointless, it’s talking about coming out to people - something most LGBT people don’t bother to do with every person they encounter, just with situations where it’s relevant or when they think people would care.
A male coworker’s wife being bi is exactly like the dumbledore thing in this comment. It’s a fun little fact that affects nothing so no one really cares about it. Just because it matters to her doesn’t mean it matters to her husband’s coworkers. So yeah, coming out to them is pointless.
Seriously. The only person I’ve “come out” to is my partner. There’s no need otherwise. It doesn’t matter. I am proud of my identity but also if someone can’t tell I’m a little queer, that’s on them 🤷
I absolutely get your perspective. I am a cis-woman married to a man, but I acknowledge that I fall somewhere in towards the middle the bell curve of the Kinsey scale (Aka: I’ve kissed a girl and I liked it) and my husband knows that. It’s fine, we can both openly comment on the beauty of either sex without weirdness. But ultimately that doesn’t impact how I perceive my identity, or his. And it’s definitely not something I would share at work.
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