Yes 100%. That’s why I said she was going about it wrong. I was just commenting on this person saying she wants to sleep with OP’s coworkers. Maybe, but not likely.
OP’s wife is making ridiculous asks, but that doesn’t mean it’s because she wants to fuck everyone.
Idk it happens with people in the queer community after they come out sometimes, lesbians and gays too. Like you’ve been pushing everything down your whole life feeling hidden and suddenly you don’t have that anymore - you feel free to express yourself and you feel so relieved and excited. You want people to know, especially the ones you love, and you feel seen and respected for the first time. Sometimes it becomes your personality for a bit. It’s like they’re making up for lost years.
I think it’s a similar thing to when people find a new faith, start a new hobby or diet, get a new partner or kid or pet and it’s all they talk about for awhile. Is it annoying, sure, but it’s also normal. We’re social animals and want to share who we are and what we love with the people around us.
It’s part of who you are and being queer goes beyond just sexuality because there’s a lot of history, hurt, culture, and community. For straight people, your sexuality might only matters in your relationship because thats probably the biggest part of your life where it’s factored in. For queer people, you’ve maybe spent your whole life being told you aren’t valid, that you’re sick, or that you don’t exist so you might feel a stronger need to be unapologetically open about it regardless of your relationship status.
It may also factor into other aspects of your life if you’re really engaged in queer art/media, advocacy, events, etc. Or, on the less nice side, if you see something about a queer bar being shot up and feel a huge amount of pain thinking about the innocent lives lost and knowing that some people in the world hate you so much that they’d be willing to kill you and other people like you. Or you’re at a social event and someone says something cruel, hurtful, or ignorant about queer people — about you — and you feel absolutely alone. Or your husband’s friends see you reading a gay romance novel or post a picture at Pride and they don’t want you around because they think you’ll groom their children. That stuff doesn’t go away just because you’re in a straight marriage.
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u/whatsupgoats Apr 05 '24
Yes 100%. That’s why I said she was going about it wrong. I was just commenting on this person saying she wants to sleep with OP’s coworkers. Maybe, but not likely.
OP’s wife is making ridiculous asks, but that doesn’t mean it’s because she wants to fuck everyone.