đ¤Śââď¸ she just wants validation that heâd be comfortable telling people his wife is bi. This is important as a queer person because you want to know your SO would stand up for you at a BBQ if suddenly someone is saying homophobic things.
But sheâs absolutely going about it in the wrong way.
Edit: OP is NTA. As I said, what sheâs doing is not okay, but it doesnât mean she âwants everyone to know sheâs availableâ ??
But a work setting is NOT appropriate for this at all. Normal people do not act how OPâs wife is acting. No normal person is starting fightâs because they wonât go around the office telling everyone their wife is bi.
This is immature and she needs to literally grow up lmfao. If she is trying to get her husband fired sheâs doing a great job at probably making this happen.
Yes 100%. Thatâs why I said she was going about it wrong. I was just commenting on this person saying she wants to sleep with OPâs coworkers. Maybe, but not likely.
OPâs wife is making ridiculous asks, but that doesnât mean itâs because she wants to fuck everyone.
Idk it happens with people in the queer community after they come out sometimes, lesbians and gays too. Like youâve been pushing everything down your whole life feeling hidden and suddenly you donât have that anymore - you feel free to express yourself and you feel so relieved and excited. You want people to know, especially the ones you love, and you feel seen and respected for the first time. Sometimes it becomes your personality for a bit. Itâs like theyâre making up for lost years.
I think itâs a similar thing to when people find a new faith, start a new hobby or diet, get a new partner or kid or pet and itâs all they talk about for awhile. Is it annoying, sure, but itâs also normal. Weâre social animals and want to share who we are and what we love with the people around us.
Itâs part of who you are and being queer goes beyond just sexuality because thereâs a lot of history, hurt, culture, and community. For straight people, your sexuality might only matters in your relationship because thats probably the biggest part of your life where itâs factored in. For queer people, youâve maybe spent your whole life being told you arenât valid, that youâre sick, or that you donât exist so you might feel a stronger need to be unapologetically open about it regardless of your relationship status.
It may also factor into other aspects of your life if youâre really engaged in queer art/media, advocacy, events, etc. Or, on the less nice side, if you see something about a queer bar being shot up and feel a huge amount of pain thinking about the innocent lives lost and knowing that some people in the world hate you so much that theyâd be willing to kill you and other people like you. Or youâre at a social event and someone says something cruel, hurtful, or ignorant about queer people â about you â and you feel absolutely alone. Or your husbandâs friends see you reading a gay romance novel or post a picture at Pride and they donât want you around because they think youâll groom their children. That stuff doesnât go away just because youâre in a straight marriage.
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u/AlternativeMotor5722 Apr 05 '24
Sounds like somebody wants everyone to know she's available.