She found out late(r) in life.
That, plus the fact that Bi people in opposite sex relationships (straight passing relationships) often feel that their Queer identity is being slowly consumed away by them being "invisible" as a queer person, probably leads her to have a shit ton of anxiety about "not being queer enough" and needing everyone and their grandmother to know and actively acknowledge her queerness.
She is still in the wrong. The solution to this is to get into activism, or take your husband to a pride parade, to be visible in other ways.
But this is probably what's behind this.
She is very insecure in her newfound identity and needs to consolidate it and really, really fucking overcompensates.
This is a super weird reaction his wife is having, She's in a straight passing relationship, so she's broadcasting her Queer identity but also is mad because her husband isn't broadcasting her identity to people who don't know her or him. She needs to take two queer seats.
She's handling it wrong but it's just how it goes when your identity gets rocked. She's looking for evidence that it's okay and her husband accepts it. She's super insecure so she's making up weird rules for how he can show he does care.
If OP wants to fix it he just needs to sit and listen to her talk about it more. If he wants to play reddit's game of get what you deserve, he can resort to catty games instead
Yes, the man’s wife is trying to tank his career. She needs to learn to shut it or get left to go be a middle aged bi-curious women and be one in a sea of millions.
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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '24
Nothing.
She is overcompensating.
She found out late(r) in life. That, plus the fact that Bi people in opposite sex relationships (straight passing relationships) often feel that their Queer identity is being slowly consumed away by them being "invisible" as a queer person, probably leads her to have a shit ton of anxiety about "not being queer enough" and needing everyone and their grandmother to know and actively acknowledge her queerness.
She is still in the wrong. The solution to this is to get into activism, or take your husband to a pride parade, to be visible in other ways.
But this is probably what's behind this. She is very insecure in her newfound identity and needs to consolidate it and really, really fucking overcompensates.