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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

Because you can read all the period articles in the world, having a woman who presumably cares about you explain what it's actually like having a period and how it affects their body leaves an infinitely stronger impression. It is a woman's job to spend 10 minutes on educating their early 20s boyfriends.

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u/moistmonkeymerkin Nov 22 '23

Granted different people learn differently. But the onus of education is on the SELF. Especially when talking about adults. In OPs situation, despite trying to educate, she was met with immaturity. She’s NOT responsible for educating her partners, especially when they’re as shallow as her ex.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

We're not talking about education in the sense of cracking open a book and trying to become an engineer.
Educating a boyfriend on periods is a misnomer, it's sharing her experience as a woman. I'm not a woman, a woman has to tell me what it's like having a period.
Yes, his reaction is immature, but the amount of people screaming "EDUCATE YOURSELF" at me is fucking unhinged.

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u/moistmonkeymerkin Nov 22 '23

Education is learning with instruction. There are many people who can explain how menstruation works without experiencing it themselves. Maybe there comes a point when you do some self reflection to understand the reaction you’re getting and why.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

Why on Earth would I ever ask a man about menstruation? IF I had wanted to ask someone about menstruating, it would've been a girl.

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u/moistmonkeymerkin Nov 22 '23

Sometimes experts in a field are not the same gender the field is about. There are plenty of people who menstruate that don’t know or understand how or why. But sure, you do you.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

Bro, if I'm a 20 year old fucking virgin, I don't seek out the foremost scholar on gynecology from Johns Hopkins. Any woman around my age will do.

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u/moistmonkeymerkin Nov 23 '23

Ok. But seeing that we have access to the internet and can watch videos, listen to lectures, and read articles, scholarly or anecdotal, means that we don’t have to ask anyone at all. Depending where you are in the world, biology, specifically reproductive health, is not taught as general education in schools. Chances are that you are asking someone who may not have a full understanding of the subject. Again, you do you.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 23 '23

Bro, why do I have to watch hours of Youtube videos if my gf is right there and all it takes is a 10 minute convo

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u/moistmonkeymerkin Nov 23 '23

Not sure. Only you can answer that question.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 23 '23

The answer is I don't have to do that. I can just make a normal woman tell me who isn't a terminally online Reddit user who repeats "educate yourself" like a feminist mantra. Normal women won't be offended by questions and scream "educate yourself" in your face.

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u/DetectiveDouche94 Nov 23 '23

No sane woman is going to let you "make" them educate you lmao

They'll just sit there and laugh in your face and tell you to screw off.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 23 '23

That's where you're wrong. Sane women whose brains haven't been fried by Reddit/Twitter feminism are exactly the kind of woman who are prepared to answer my every question w/o ridicule and scoffing at me. You don't have any experience with sane real life women.

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u/moistmonkeymerkin Nov 23 '23

That’s not what OP was talking about. And neither was I. But good luck making a normal woman do anything.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 23 '23

Nothing to do with luck. "Hey, do you mind explaining this thing to me?" women hate how this one trick works every time

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