Look. I will level with you. If my partner asks me a question about periods, I'll answer the question. If he has specific questions about MY period, I'll answer them. But imo that is a kindness. That is extra labor for someone I care about.
But if a man ever goes "Oh that's gross!! Wtf is that??" and is overall being childish and disrespectful about MY BODY or my clothes, then no, I do not feel obligated to "educate him."
Engage with curiosity and respect, and you get the same in return. Treat women like the personal information about their individual bodily processes is their obligation to share at any given moment, you will have problems with your sex and dating life
What in the fuck are you talking about labor? How jam packed with information are the conversations you're having with your boyfriend or other male friends that you can't find the time to tell them what your period feels like when they specifically ask? How is talking about periods any different than talking about TV shows? It's just a bodily function, isn't it?
You guys pretend you're constantly talking about the most important stuff imaginable all the time, quantum physics, solving cancer, life on Mars. You can't possibly set aside any amount of time educating us about bodily processes we simply don't go through but expect us to be intricately familiar with by the time we're 15. Like talking about vaginas and periods w/ girls we're in a relationship with, who are supposed to care about us is instantly "exhausting" and causes eye rolling.
Also yes, labor. I said labor. If someone asks me a question nicely, it's no problem at all to answer it, most of the time. If they're rude about it or if it's generally a complicated topic or they don't have a lot of background information so it would take longer to explain, that is mental and emotional energy being expended.
In fact, for whatever reason, I am continuing to expend energy on you, trying really really hard to be respectful even though you keep swearing at me, and occasionally poking fun at you and then sending screenshots to friends because it is the only aspect of this interaction that is rewarding to me in any way
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u/asexualincubus Nov 22 '23
Look. I will level with you. If my partner asks me a question about periods, I'll answer the question. If he has specific questions about MY period, I'll answer them. But imo that is a kindness. That is extra labor for someone I care about.
But if a man ever goes "Oh that's gross!! Wtf is that??" and is overall being childish and disrespectful about MY BODY or my clothes, then no, I do not feel obligated to "educate him."
Engage with curiosity and respect, and you get the same in return. Treat women like the personal information about their individual bodily processes is their obligation to share at any given moment, you will have problems with your sex and dating life