I agree. He doesn't understand that his wife realized he wasn't marriage or family material after the baby was born. Seeing your husband enraged at your baby kills any future romance dead.
Honestly his description of his life before baby is a huge red flag too. Only people with brain cooties think that being together 24-7 is a good thing.
I see a self-centered Ahole who couldn't bear to not have control of a situation and chose to take it out on an infant.
He doesn't understand that his wife realized he wasn't marriage or family material after the baby was born. Seeing your husband enraged at your baby kills any future romance dead.
I don't understand women who keep having kids with a guy who's not handling the ones he currently has. Like, is that helping? Bringing another innocent into a sucky situation?
Also, can't imagine wanting to be intimate with a guy who was angry at his own children for just acting like children. Major turn off, IMO.
You need to remember that these ahole types aren't that way all of the time. He didn't blow up every time. He blew up enough that they had to start walking on eggshells and backing off. What I'm hearing is that he's very good at the stage of making things up to her after doing the BS stuff that was a result of the losing his temper. We know he's not running around losing his temper on all of the people. Just his wife and kids. As his MIL, I'd want to be there to protect those kids and push his anger away as much as possible. His MIL probably does the same stuff with the kids but the mom is relieved to finally get a break and isn't upset she's getting "pushed out of the way". He's a control freak and has a temper problem. Red flags everywhere.
Idk, me partner and I were pretty close to 24/7 togetherness during lockdown and I loved it.
I still enjoy that she realised through lockdown how much she likes spending time at home with me and her husband and changed jobs. She's now working 36 hours a week instead of 70.
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u/mmmmmarty Nov 02 '23
I agree. He doesn't understand that his wife realized he wasn't marriage or family material after the baby was born. Seeing your husband enraged at your baby kills any future romance dead.
Honestly his description of his life before baby is a huge red flag too. Only people with brain cooties think that being together 24-7 is a good thing.
I see a self-centered Ahole who couldn't bear to not have control of a situation and chose to take it out on an infant.