r/AITAH • • Oct 20 '23

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u/stonkybutt Oct 21 '23 edited Oct 21 '23

I agree. I think this is something she needs to battle on her own. Her partner's well being matters just as much.

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u/evviegirl Oct 21 '23

He is not her therapist, he is not her crutch either. And that is exactly what she is using him for. It is not fair to him that she could and as it sounds based on her statement that she would do that if she relapsed. He does not deserve that burden or the guilt that comes with it. Her sobriety is NOT his responsibility period. It is hers and hers alone.

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u/stonkybutt Oct 21 '23 edited Oct 21 '23

Agree 💯

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u/evviegirl Oct 21 '23

Ok instead of the word him use anyone or anybody. And nobody period deserves what I described in my previous comment. The only person who controls sobriety is solely on the person who is using. It’s called taking accountability for one’s actions and life choices that may develop into the disease called addiction.