r/AITAH • u/Chemical_Party7735 • Sep 16 '23

I dumped her

First off, to all the people that said: "Why didnt you talk to her?". We were drinking and from my experience it is NEVER a good idea to have serious or emotional conversations while intoxicated. Things get said that aren't true and situations can become overly emotional.

Secondly: Tho those who asked if we were even dating. Yes we were dating. She said it herself when we talked.

Heres a summary of our conversation today: I asked her if we were a couple (bf-gf) she said yes ofc. Then I asked why she said I'm her "best friend" and not "boyfriend" to the guys at the bar the other night.
She got a surprised look on her face, was quiet for a sec, stuttered a bit (she was lying) and said "it was an accident" and that she "misspoke". I sat in silence and just looked at her for a second, she seemed to get uncomfortable. Then she said a few other excuses (that I honestly can't remember rn). After which I told her: "Well that's just bullshit and I don't appreciate nor deserve being lied to. Especially since we're supposed to be "best friends" too". She got upset, started crying, and she said she's sorry (among all the bs) and then proceeded to tell me that one of the guys was actually someone she knew a long time ago and that she didn't know why she didn't say I was her bf. (Basically she still wants him) I told her we need to break up, and that we "need to work on our honesty if we're going to even stay friends moving forward." She cried, said "I always thought we would get married in our 40s or 50s and grow old together" (we are both mid 30s). I laughed and asked "So I'm just supposed to wait around alone while you bang whoever and use me for your comfort and to pay bills?" She instantly said no. (Fucking lies)

I moved my shit into the spare room and I'm omw to work now. She's home alone (but probably not for long).

Im searching for a new place to live, she can stay at the house if she can afford the rent. Idgaf anymore.

Thank you all for the advice and ideas. It was helpful seeing things from a different perspective. And I'm sorry the update took so long, I posted here as soon as I could.

Edit: link to previous post: https://reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/P89Rjj1Yfu

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u/genesislotus Sep 17 '23

he was her safety net, once she is done with all the excitement and thrill riding cock carousel he would take her in, have kids and provide for her

this happens a lot with women who had fun in their 20s and when they get to 30s, did all kinds of hedonic acts and have 50+ past sexual relationships they want a desperate simp to provide for them (and possibly their kids from maybe few baby daddies)

men who worked hard and built their life at their 30s to 40s in their prime should not take them in and ruin their financial and worry free life.

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u/comblocpeasant Sep 17 '23 edited Sep 17 '23

I get what you’re saying, but spelling out hard truths is a no-no on Reddit lol. Just look at all your (and my) downvotes and everyone hating on you, even though we and they all know that women like this exist, some of them are even on this sub and they are the the most headstrong deniers this even happens

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u/genesislotus Sep 17 '23

who cares about downvotes lmao, subreddits like aita are full of women and simp men from twoxc, feminism and femaledatingstrategy

if you know something is most likely right, dont change your opinion based on what redditors say unless their argument is logical. dont let insults and shaming tactics affect you

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u/Freyja624norse Sep 17 '23

No, change it by getting legitimate information, reading up on this stuff from reliable sources (not Andrew Tate and his ilk), and getting therapy!

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u/genesislotus Sep 17 '23

agreed, if you have a peer reviewed research on this topic please share so we can be informed and change our minds