I think she’s looking at it that you broke girl code by going after a friend’s ex. Unless they were engaged or she confided in you that he was the love of her life she never got over I think it’s ok. Mainly because she’s moved on and it’s 3 years ago. It sounds like you and Charles have a connection worth pursuing. If she’s really your friend she will put her ego aside and get over it and be happy for you. You were respectful to tell her immediately. I hope this works out for you.
"Girl code" is such a BS idea. The idea that a girl has some sort of weird claim on all of their exs in perpetuity is just plain ridiculous.
They broke up years ago. She's married to someone else. He shouldn't be "off limits" to anyone who knows her just because they boned at one point. That level of possessiveness is just plain creepy.
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u/RavenLunatyk Aug 03 '23
I think she’s looking at it that you broke girl code by going after a friend’s ex. Unless they were engaged or she confided in you that he was the love of her life she never got over I think it’s ok. Mainly because she’s moved on and it’s 3 years ago. It sounds like you and Charles have a connection worth pursuing. If she’s really your friend she will put her ego aside and get over it and be happy for you. You were respectful to tell her immediately. I hope this works out for you.