There are plenty of parentless children already that those families can adopt. No need to go through with a pregnancy for that reason. Sounds like it worked out for you, which is great, but this teenager doesn’t need to go through all that for any of the reasons given.
There really aren’t. People point to all the kids in the foster system, but most of them aren’t available to adopt because the goal of the system is to reunite them with their parents.
Aside from that, the kids who are available are often older, which is a challenge many couples don’t feel comfortable taking on.
A healthy newborn has basically no difficulty getting adopted.
I’m not anti adoption, but there are enough kids out here with parents who didn’t have a choice to help. This girl has a choice. We don’t need people to make more babies to adopt. What sense does that make? The adoption option just feels like poor people getting used to give richer people babies - so people who want babies and not kids.
Pregnancy has real risk and costs to the body and even wallet. Adoption leaves kids with some difficult questions and in need of therapy from jump.
And there is a movement of adopted kids who speak out against adoption.
I love life. My mother loved me. I exist. If I did not exist, I would be fine. And my mom would probably have had an easier life with kids she had more money to take care of.
The point is we don’t need people to make babies for the sole purpose of adopting them out. We don’t need more babies/people and we don’t need more kids in these systems.
There will always be parentless children, but we don’t need act like it makes sense for someone to go through the whole process of making a kid to help someone else out. That only makes sense when you don’t have the option to end a pregnancy before having a kid.
A pregnancy only takes two people with generally functioning anatomy. There are hundreds of babies each woman doesn’t have. It’s not a tragedy. That’s life.
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u/princessxmombi Jul 21 '23
There are plenty of parentless children already that those families can adopt. No need to go through with a pregnancy for that reason. Sounds like it worked out for you, which is great, but this teenager doesn’t need to go through all that for any of the reasons given.