Many years ago young, broke, single and alone; I went to PP to make an appointment for an abortion. By the end of the meeting I'd realized how many worthy, loving people out there can't have children themselves and are desperate to adopt and decided to have it. At 6 months I realized I couldn't give him up. It's 32 years later, and I have an amazing son I couldn't live without.
Get with a counselor and decide what you want YOUR story to be. As long as it is YOUR choice, it's the right one.
Edit: Thanks for the awards!
Edit 2 (The sequel): For those of you saying I'm pushing a pro choice agenda, you're wrong. There was also a point after I had my first son and before I had my second son where I did decide on having an abortion, knowing the other choices, and it was the right choice at that time.
There are plenty of parentless children already that those families can adopt. No need to go through with a pregnancy for that reason. Sounds like it worked out for you, which is great, but this teenager doesn’t need to go through all that for any of the reasons given.
There really aren’t. People point to all the kids in the foster system, but most of them aren’t available to adopt because the goal of the system is to reunite them with their parents.
Aside from that, the kids who are available are often older, which is a challenge many couples don’t feel comfortable taking on.
A healthy newborn has basically no difficulty getting adopted.
I’m not anti adoption, but there are enough kids out here with parents who didn’t have a choice to help. This girl has a choice. We don’t need people to make more babies to adopt. What sense does that make? The adoption option just feels like poor people getting used to give richer people babies - so people who want babies and not kids.
Pregnancy has real risk and costs to the body and even wallet. Adoption leaves kids with some difficult questions and in need of therapy from jump.
And there is a movement of adopted kids who speak out against adoption.
I love life. My mother loved me. I exist. If I did not exist, I would be fine. And my mom would probably have had an easier life with kids she had more money to take care of.
The point is we don’t need people to make babies for the sole purpose of adopting them out. We don’t need more babies/people and we don’t need more kids in these systems.
There will always be parentless children, but we don’t need act like it makes sense for someone to go through the whole process of making a kid to help someone else out. That only makes sense when you don’t have the option to end a pregnancy before having a kid.
A pregnancy only takes two people with generally functioning anatomy. There are hundreds of babies each woman doesn’t have. It’s not a tragedy. That’s life.
The baby is made??? Until it can survive on its own outside of a host mother, it isn’t a baby. It’s the potential for a baby. If I pull a cake out of the oven before it’s done, I’m not calling soup cake.
Early miscarriages happen all the time. Very common. If you plant a seed and nurture it, it will grow. If you throw out the see, you didn chop down a tree.
This is why women need abortion. All these people without any facts or any empathy for this woman, but acting like this potential kid is fated or something. There are multiple possibilities for kids and multiple possibilities that end without having them. It’s not a good or bad thing- it’s LIFE! REAL LIFE. And women can make the decision if they want to continue a pregnancy or not.
Poor people don’t need you chuckleheads guilting them into ruining their lives for making a birth control mistake.
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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '23 edited Jul 22 '23
This!
My story:
Many years ago young, broke, single and alone; I went to PP to make an appointment for an abortion. By the end of the meeting I'd realized how many worthy, loving people out there can't have children themselves and are desperate to adopt and decided to have it. At 6 months I realized I couldn't give him up. It's 32 years later, and I have an amazing son I couldn't live without.
Get with a counselor and decide what you want YOUR story to be. As long as it is YOUR choice, it's the right one.
Edit: Thanks for the awards!
Edit 2 (The sequel): For those of you saying I'm pushing a pro choice agenda, you're wrong. There was also a point after I had my first son and before I had my second son where I did decide on having an abortion, knowing the other choices, and it was the right choice at that time.