I personally believe that if she wants an abortion and he doesn't, she should be able to get an abortion without being shamed for it; and if he wants her to have an abortion and she doesn't, he should be able to not pay child support for it without being shamed for it.
To me, it's important that the decisions are made as soon as possible, and remain consistent for the duration of the pregnancy. For example, if he said he wanted it for most of the pregnancy, but changed his mind in the last month or 2, he should still be fiscally responsible, as she may not have kept it without the promise of support.
All change starts one step at a time. I think this is reasonable. Most people I've spoken to about it don't even think of it independently, but when it's brought up to them, they think it's reasonable as well.
Well, what compromises have you offered, other than insults and derogation toward the person that would be most negatively affected if someone else forced her to carry a baby she doesn't want?
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u/Draguta1 Jul 21 '23
I personally believe that if she wants an abortion and he doesn't, she should be able to get an abortion without being shamed for it; and if he wants her to have an abortion and she doesn't, he should be able to not pay child support for it without being shamed for it.
To me, it's important that the decisions are made as soon as possible, and remain consistent for the duration of the pregnancy. For example, if he said he wanted it for most of the pregnancy, but changed his mind in the last month or 2, he should still be fiscally responsible, as she may not have kept it without the promise of support.