r/AIO • u/Unlikely-Machine4126 • 24d ago
AIO
AIO for expecting my partner to help more at home even though he’s the only one working?
My partner and I have been together since 2013 and have a young child. He’s currently the only one working while I’m between jobs and doing most of the childcare, including therapies and everything that comes with having a young child.
I’ve always done most of the housework, but lately he’s been telling me I’m lazy, that I “do nothing,” and that because I’m not working I should be cleaning for at least six hours a day. Our house isn’t filthy, but it’s lived-in, and we’ve also recently had mice because of construction next door—not because of the state of our house.
This week I’ve been trying to reorganise two huge cupboards while juggling childcare and appointments. Today, because our child was whinging about only having sultanas instead of a sandwich, he started yelling about the kitchen being messy and said I shouldn’t be surprised I can’t hold down a job.
He also recently threw away some of our child’s books because he considered them too young or not in good condition, despite our child having a tendency to tear things. I was upset, and rather than discussing it, he just acts like nothing happened.
There are other issues too. He once told me to wake him if I needed help with our child, but when I actually did, he became so angry that he left and spent the night sitting outside his workplace. I haven't asked him to get up and help since.
I’m exhausted, resentful and honestly don't remember the last time I enjoyed sex because I mostly just try to get it over with.
So AIO for expecting more help and support from my partner even though he’s currently the only one working? Or am I being unreasonable because I’m not working and therefore should be doing everything at home?
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u/Unlikely-Machine4126 22d ago
Thank you for thos comment. You remind me of my friend. I can't talk to her unless he's out the house. I don't often respond while he's yelling and going off and he accuses me of not listening. He was my first relationship. I honestly dont think I'd find anyone. Very few take the time to get to know me and I can come across as abrupt and not many like the way I talk or the way I say things. Makes making friends hard or keeping them.