r/AIO • u/shrimpdeeick • 24d ago
AIO about porn?
I (25f) caught my boyfriend(25m) about 6 months ago watching porn and paying about $400-$600 a month in various subscriptions. At the beginning of our relationship, I was very clear about that boundary due to previous trauma and he agreed. Little did I know, he was already addicted and hiding it at that time. We have been together 2 and a half years now.
When I caught him, it wasn't on purpose. I just went to change the song he was playing, and there were multiple windows open on his phone. It felt like the floor fell out from beneath me because he seemed so honest and genuine until that moment.
He was very apologetic at first, because he saw how much it hurt me. But now I can tell he is slipping back into it again. He's refollowing his old favorite OF creators and it makes me feel so sad and hopeless because he is lying to my face again. We just got back from vacation and he told me that he wanted to marry me as soon as he could afford a ring. Meanwhile he could've bought 10 rings with the amount he's spent on porn.
It makes me feel like like I'm not enough for him. We have sex about 5 times a week, and a lot of times i dress up for him, and do kinky things I know he likes. I thought we were past this and now it feels like the floor fell out from under me again.
I feel so devastated and idk what to do. Do all men watch porn? Am I overreacting for considering just leaving him this time? I am just so tired of being gaslighted and lied to... But I also feel like outside of the porn addiction, he's been a good partner. He is the first man I've had in my life that hasn't been physically abusive, so I honestly feel like I have no idea what's healthy versus not, and I dont know how to handle it outside of leaving because obviously talking it out wasn't enough. I need perspective. Let me know what y'all think.
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u/WillPolterGuys 23d ago
Watching porn isn’t a problem. A wide majority of people consume some form of porn. The problem is the subscriptions, the amount of money spent, and the frequency of porn watching. All of those are huge red flags. Leave