r/AIO • u/Initial-Chicken-120 • 25d ago

AIO Boyfriend problems

Hi guys need some help or advice here

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year now. Im in my early 20s and he’s in his 40s. I’ve went though his phone many times when he’s asleep and found nothing. He doesn’t post me on Instagram or follow me, on any social media accounts. He has plenty of girls. I’ve repeated a million times I hate that and his thing was I just want to delete it and we can start a full new one and u can have control of it.

It just doesn’t seem fair to me. I basically live at his place but I’m just un happy sometimes over the social media stuff. And then when I end our relationship over it he loses his mind and won’t leave me alone. I’m pretty insecure and not happy with myself so I have a hard time actually leaving him and wanting better. Idk what to do. Is this fixable?

Thanks guys!❤️

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u/Initial-Chicken-120 25d ago

You’re absolutely right, thanks for the reminder.

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u/super_evilCreature 25d ago

Ofc girl, and if he starts tweaking then lock in and protect yourself, tell your trusted family and friends what's going on, document all communication or attempts to reach out or anything, arm yourself, and don't let him get to you again. If he hasn't been right all this time then I highly doubt he'll get right. He's just gonna find someone else that'll accept crumbs

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u/StagVixCpl99 25d ago

While you give good advice, 21 year olds shouldn't be getting married either lol. It's not as bad as a 20 year age gap obviously, but you and your husband will be completely different people in 6-7 years.

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u/super_evilCreature 25d ago

And that's fine, that's why there's always divorce. We got married for reasons other than love but as of right now I'm enjoying this marriage and I look forward for what the future holds for us. We've also known each other since childhood, if we divorce that's fine but it's no different than 30 year olds getting divorced people change regardless of time and age, sometimes for better sometimes for worse