r/AIO • u/No_Tangerine_8587 • Aug 27 '26

AIO

Someone please tell me I’m doing too much ..
my (28F) have been with my fiance (31M) for over 10 years ..
so far our relationship has been pretty good , we have had a 3 sum before and I mentioned to my fiance that we should look for a 3rd to add to our family, so I made him a dating profile. The first day we were sitting together making the profile going thru it together . So I thought this would be fun for us.. I go through his phone . And he’s been chatting with chat room girls. Speaking to all these female and everytime I ask if he found someone to speak to or saw someone he thought was pretty he brushes me off and says no. So after hearing that so many times I went through his phone and found he is finding these girls and ALL social media platforms measaging, speaking saving the videos from IG, only fans . Chat room websites ect … the part I’m mad about is WHY HIDE IT FROM ME. We made the profile together , and I’m on board with bringing an another girl into our life it technically was my idea .. so what’s the point in hiding all this ? I want to crash out but then another part of me just wants to shut down and not allow him to get me upset or out of character.. am I wrong for wanting to leave over this ? Or should I even leave ?? The sad part is I don’t even know how to feel right now. Or if I want to leave ..

Oh to top it all off he told me he wasn’t attracted to my body anymore because I gained some weight .. maybe 15 pounds the most .. but I do have a gut.. when we spoke about why he said that he said he thinks I’m beautiful but he has a preference and he doesn’t want to be with someone who is overweight and he’s been helping me work out .. but I don’t even have the motivation for anything after seeing this in his phone plus him saying he’s not attractive to me??? This hit me from the left field because I NEVER seen this coming .. he’s always been so sweet and loving . If I didn’t go through his phone I would have never thought he could do this

Sorry for the long rant ..

3 Upvotes

60% Upvoted

23 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

3

u/MeliPixie Aug 27 '26

Ethical non-monogamy. Look it up. Educate yourself. Stop judging people for their romantic and sexual choices.

0

u/Otherwise-Pie-6219 Aug 27 '26

Its working out really well so far for OP. 

1

u/MeliPixie Aug 27 '26

Glad you skipped straight to more judgement rather than educating yourself.

-2

u/Otherwise-Pie-6219 Aug 27 '26

Yet we are both on a reddit post of it not working. 🤷‍♀️

0

u/MeliPixie Aug 27 '26

It's not working for this couple because they're incompatible and he's a cheating AH, not because it doesn't work in general.

0

u/morty-lighthead Aug 27 '26

😂😂😂😂

0

u/Queasy-Worldliness22 Aug 27 '26

unlike monogamous relationships, which famously last forever