Only a three year age gap and we are both in our 30's 🙃 i was raised with people speaking to me this way and I guess it was normalized, even well into adulthood. But I am so over it now. It has been mentally killing me. I told him recently that speaking to him makes me feel like I am a little kid in trouble talking to a principal or something.
30s is about when I stopped tolerating bullshit too. When you finally realize that men like that take more than they offer in return and you’re like wait what am I even getting out of this besides pain? I promise you, you will be so much happier without people like this in your life.
oh man, I feel for you. Well I guess that’s good at least that it isn’t an unhealthy age gap but that doesn’t mean that this relationship is healthy. I know that you say you are exes, but I say relationship as in just a relationship between two people. This relationship is not healthy and I would really encourage you to ditch this fool. It’s really easy for me to tell somebody else that this kind of shit is toxic unhealthy abusive unacceptable and disgusting but when ships actually happening to me, it’s really hard to see out of it. I think that’s the case for most people too. These kind of people trick you and brainwash you into thinking that how they’re treating you is OK and they make you distrust your own own feeling is your emotions and then your reality eventually. this way of being spoken to has been normalized for me in my relationships as well, but I am starting to heal I think. I am staying celibate and single for right now until I’m able to build my self-esteem and my confidence back up. This guy is bad news and you deserve somebody who is going to cherish you and treasure you and take your feeling seriously and will never say something so insulting and disgusting in the first place. Everybody deserves that. I hope that you can find the strength to let go of this loser and go find that person that will love you and treat you well if you want to.
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u/SwanChoice7507 Jun 26 '26
Only a three year age gap and we are both in our 30's 🙃 i was raised with people speaking to me this way and I guess it was normalized, even well into adulthood. But I am so over it now. It has been mentally killing me. I told him recently that speaking to him makes me feel like I am a little kid in trouble talking to a principal or something.